Hi All,
I should start by setting the scene. My ex is exceptionally manipulative, while we were together she used various things against me saying "if you don't do x you won't ever see your son". She exagerated and even fabricated evidence against me.
It made the legal proceedings regarding access to my son very complicated, long winded and cost prohibitive. By the time I tried to restart things she was also able to use "absenteeism" against me. She will use anything she can to drive a wedge between us.
I found out two things today; 1) he is autistic and 2) she has stalked me online to find dirt on me, the best of which she could come up with is that I'm poly
She's trying to paint some picture of this making me unstable. The truth is that in three and a half years of identifying as polyamorous I've only ever twice been in overlapping relationships and I am presently in just one relationship which has been very long lasting and very stable. I think the argument of polyamory somehow making for an unfit parent is ridiculous and is put forward purely from a place of ignorance - the two are entirely unconnected regardless of whether you are out to your family or not.
So to counter her arguments I was wondering if anyone has any positive stories of Autism and Polyamory. Do you have a child who is Autistic? Have you found yourself in a similar custody battle with your lifestyle being held against you? Are you perhaps Autistic yourself as either a polyamorous person or the partner of one?
I realise this is a sensitive topic for people so if you would rather PM me or perhaps even rather just pass over the thread then I will understand. Thanks in advance for your support
I should start by setting the scene. My ex is exceptionally manipulative, while we were together she used various things against me saying "if you don't do x you won't ever see your son". She exagerated and even fabricated evidence against me.
It made the legal proceedings regarding access to my son very complicated, long winded and cost prohibitive. By the time I tried to restart things she was also able to use "absenteeism" against me. She will use anything she can to drive a wedge between us.
I found out two things today; 1) he is autistic and 2) she has stalked me online to find dirt on me, the best of which she could come up with is that I'm poly
She's trying to paint some picture of this making me unstable. The truth is that in three and a half years of identifying as polyamorous I've only ever twice been in overlapping relationships and I am presently in just one relationship which has been very long lasting and very stable. I think the argument of polyamory somehow making for an unfit parent is ridiculous and is put forward purely from a place of ignorance - the two are entirely unconnected regardless of whether you are out to your family or not.
So to counter her arguments I was wondering if anyone has any positive stories of Autism and Polyamory. Do you have a child who is Autistic? Have you found yourself in a similar custody battle with your lifestyle being held against you? Are you perhaps Autistic yourself as either a polyamorous person or the partner of one?
I realise this is a sensitive topic for people so if you would rather PM me or perhaps even rather just pass over the thread then I will understand. Thanks in advance for your support