Husband is poly and Iam not

Powerpuffgirl I not sure what you would have called us bc I thought she was someone that were we just playing with. And yea I guess you could call her our GF. Then once we found out she was pregnant and my husband talked me in to letting her move in ( in June) (she moved out in July) I think that she was ok being the unicorn but durning that month she living with us that's went everything came to head and everything came out in the open. I realize that there was something more going on.

I hope Iam making sense
 
L1zz13l, you are making sense. It sounds like you had a casual arrangement with this GF, but then things got a lot more serious between her and your husband. It also sounds like the month she was living with you was a nightmare. The others are right. You are caught in a bad situation. You should cut the ties and get yourself out of there. :(
 
Well done

I've been reading! You were given sound advice and it seems like you absorbed and digested it.
GOOD FOR YOU! Pat yourself on the back for me!
 
Good for you, putting yourself and your kids first.

It's going to be hard, and he's probably going to whine and plead with you to come back (sounds like you are the "backbone" in this relationship), but you have to do what's best for YOU. What he got himself in is a shitshow..
 
Lizzie

L1zz13l said:
I just told my husband that I could not be with him right🙁
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You have to do what's better for you and your child!
It sucks to have you tell him... But it's his doing! And you have your wants and likes too.

How are you today, Liz?
 
Stay strong!

L1zz13l said:
I just told my husband that I could not be with him right
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Rescuing your own self from crazy stuff? That is self honoring, self respecting behavior. You have inherent worth, dignity and value. You deserve good treatment. NOT. THIS. CRAP! :mad:

He can't treat you well? As a person of worth, dignity, and value? He does not deserve to be with you then. You certainly don't deserve him. You deserve BETTER!

I can imagine it was hard to do. But I think in this wonky situation? It was the best thing to do. Save yourself and the kids, and get out of the burning house with your self worth, dignity, and value intact.

Him? He hasn't been doing self-respecting behavior. Or doing anything especially worthy, especially dignified, or especially valuable here. Just making shenanigans! But you don't have to to lower your personal standards to go join him in shenanigans just to keep him company. Exposing your kids to all this yuck.

If he comes back begging, demanding, pleading, threatening, crying, screaming, whatever? Recognize he's desperately flipping through his record collection of FLIMSY. Trying to play just the right new lie/song to ensnare you back up again in his stupid.

This is not the DJ and not the party for you.

Stay strong and keep saying NO. See him for the messed up person he is. Flimsy character, flimsy morals, flimsy values. You deserve QUALITY people around you. Not flimsy people.

You are a strong role model. I think the kids will learn (over time perhaps) that NO. Not even for a partner should you hurt your own self. It is a vital skill to be able to say

"I love you, but NO. Not even for you am I going to do things that hurt me. That is too much to ask! I have to love me too!

And you asking me such demeaning and devaluing FRESH? :mad: I'm not all that sure I want to keep on loving you. Shoo!"​

I hope you get well away from all this crazy and your healing time is restorative.

You deserve WAY better in Life. I don't know you in real life. But I'm confident you can get out there and create that Quality Life for yourself that you deserve. You are NOT flimsy people.

Good on you!

hugs
Galagirl
 
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