Dealing with a socipath in a poly situation

You are out of it. Stay out. Save yourself.

She will either wake up or not on her own. If right now she cannot hear you? Nothing you say will change her mind. And the more agitated you get about it the more you seem like the loony he paints you to be.

Be calm, step away, attend to your choices. Let her make her own decisions.

Galagirl
 
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Sorry to hear you have broken up. :(
 
vinsanity0 said:
He wants to make sure she doesn't go back. Maybe he is insecure.
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He most definitely is. Regarding the other thing, I've been assesed by 3 psychiatrists, I have depression and anxiety related to outside stressors. Theres no hint of anything else thankfully. I have been recieving treatment. Meds only hit me with side effects. I'm going to try amd salvage a friendship but she needs better advice... it can't come from me.
 
I'm going to try and salvage a friendship but she needs better advice... it can't come from me.
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Glad you see that. It cannot come from you. She's not ready to listen.

All you can do (and do it only if she asks you, don't push it on her...) is say that you find his behavior to be messed up and you are not up for being around that kind of behavior.

That she has to make up her OWN mind about what behavior she is and is not willing to be around. That she is capable of making her own choices. And that she deserves to be treated well, with dignity and respect.

Then stand back and let the chips fall where they may. You do not have to stand in the splash zone.

Galagirl
 
GalaGirl said:
Glad you see that. It cannot come from you. She's not ready to listen.

All you can do (and do it only if she asks you, don't push it on her...) is say that this behavior from him is messed up and you are not up for being around that kind of behavior.

That she has to make up her OWN mind about what behavior she is and is not willing to be around. That she is capable of making her own choices. And that she deserves to be treated well, with dignity and respect.

Then stand back and let the chips fall where they may. You do not have to stand in the splash zone.

Galagirl
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Well said. I know this now. I just needed a friend to make me feel loved again to give me some strength to see all this for what it's been.
 
It's been a big mess, certainly.

Hang in there and do your self care.

Galagirl
 
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