Hello Everyone!

[LBeyond]

I'm a married male, two kids. Formerly attempted a poly-fi relationship, but found out through the experience that it's not a lifestyle my wife can live. I went into it skeptical, found that it suited me perfectly, and am struggling to give it up for my wife. I've got, quite literally, zero close friends or family members I can talk to... about anything, let alone something like this. I work steel 50-70 hours a week, I've threatened my own mother with a restraining order (for a wonderful list of reasons), and I've lost the few close friends I'd gained through high school and college to the military or simple time and distance.

I'm an avid gamer, PC, console and tabletop. I enjoy a variety of hobbies, from extreme sports/MMA to blacksmithing and other crafts. My wife and I do focus on civil rights near-daily (religious predominately, since my wife has a passion for Christian-Muslim relations), though with our current struggles, most of our support comes through social media and raising our kids to understand and accept difference in the world. I've been struggling with anxiety for a few years now. My wife has schizoaffective disorder, which brought a wave of unprecedented challenges into my life. We've slowly pieced together some coping and symptom-control methods, and are nearing our first decade together.

 

[River]

I've got, quite literally, zero close friends or family members I can talk to... about anything, let alone something like this. I work steel 50-70 hours a week [....] and I've lost the few close friends I'd gained through high school and college to the military or simple time and distance.

Hello and welcome, LBeyond.

When I read your words I thought to myself, "Man, this guy needs a friend or two" and then "But where would he find the time for a friend or two?" (due to so much time spent at work)

Friends are both valuable and important. So is time not spent at work, if it can be managed.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings LBeyond,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I looked at your other thread, and responded there briefly. To summarize, you have to figure out if you and your wife are compatible looking way down the road. It sounds like you have a lot of challenges in your life, I am sympathetic and hope that Polyamory.com can help.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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