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Well, my lunch date wasn't very exciting. He was ... shorter than me, a bit overweight, balding. Which isn't a dealbreaker of course. But again, not really my type.
I liked his voice. But there were issues. He was like, mansplaining the entire time. Dominating the conversation. He went on and on about other women he dated, men his gf had dated... I finally pointed out I didn't need to hear all this, I'd rather talk about interests we shared, to see what we had in common. He said, but I am trying to tell you what I am looking for. And then he went back to telling me more stories about women he dated, or the kid of a man that his gf dated.
Geez, you're a member of Mensa, you said. Can't we talk about more intellectual topics than just kiss and tell about people you've met, or your gf has met? His gf has met a bunch of flaky guys. He seemed to think it was important to tell me all about several of them. I know! I know how many jerks are on OKC. I told him this, but he wouldn't stop telling me about them.
Finally after just one hour, he said he had to go "hit some balls with the guys." I said, hit some balls? Yeah, hit some balls. I made a lame joke by gesturing in a slapping way towards his crotch. I got a small smile, as he explained he meant meeting some business associates for golf.
He does business consulting and this is a way to communicate with others about transactions in a relaxed way, yada yada. But he really doesn't like golf, he said. I said, are there other sports you DO like to do for fun? (Still trying to find out what his interests are, besides trying to get dates.) He said, yeah, hiking, camping... I said, Oh you like to camp on vacation? He goes, "Yeah, well, we have 2 dogs and it's hard to find places that take dogs, so we usually camp. We went to Bar Harbor this summer." "Oh! I love Mt Desert Island!" But then he just went on to complain about the heat there.
So, it had only been an hour and 10 minutes, and he said again he had to get going! We parted in the lot, no hugs and kisses. He said, he wanted to see me again soon.
Shortest first date I have EVER had in 10 years of dating. If this is all the time he has, squeezing in an hour in the middle of the day, I know this won't be satisfying. I imagine him hopping on top for 10 minutes of missionary. Just as boring in the sack as he was in conversation. Bleh. And then going and telling his gf and anyone else he dates all about me!
I liked his voice. But there were issues. He was like, mansplaining the entire time. Dominating the conversation. He went on and on about other women he dated, men his gf had dated... I finally pointed out I didn't need to hear all this, I'd rather talk about interests we shared, to see what we had in common. He said, but I am trying to tell you what I am looking for. And then he went back to telling me more stories about women he dated, or the kid of a man that his gf dated.
Geez, you're a member of Mensa, you said. Can't we talk about more intellectual topics than just kiss and tell about people you've met, or your gf has met? His gf has met a bunch of flaky guys. He seemed to think it was important to tell me all about several of them. I know! I know how many jerks are on OKC. I told him this, but he wouldn't stop telling me about them.
Finally after just one hour, he said he had to go "hit some balls with the guys." I said, hit some balls? Yeah, hit some balls. I made a lame joke by gesturing in a slapping way towards his crotch. I got a small smile, as he explained he meant meeting some business associates for golf.
He does business consulting and this is a way to communicate with others about transactions in a relaxed way, yada yada. But he really doesn't like golf, he said. I said, are there other sports you DO like to do for fun? (Still trying to find out what his interests are, besides trying to get dates.) He said, yeah, hiking, camping... I said, Oh you like to camp on vacation? He goes, "Yeah, well, we have 2 dogs and it's hard to find places that take dogs, so we usually camp. We went to Bar Harbor this summer." "Oh! I love Mt Desert Island!" But then he just went on to complain about the heat there.
So, it had only been an hour and 10 minutes, and he said again he had to get going! We parted in the lot, no hugs and kisses. He said, he wanted to see me again soon.
Shortest first date I have EVER had in 10 years of dating. If this is all the time he has, squeezing in an hour in the middle of the day, I know this won't be satisfying. I imagine him hopping on top for 10 minutes of missionary. Just as boring in the sack as he was in conversation. Bleh. And then going and telling his gf and anyone else he dates all about me!
I just don't know what happened to my other dating prospect. We've been chatting pretty regularly. After he got done with his work conference last weekend, he got home in the wee hours of Monday. We talked on Tuesday and set up a Friday date. (Yesterday.) We chatted a bit during the week. I told him I was looking forward to meeting him. He said, "The pleasure is all mine. You are a very beautiful and attractive person."
Yesterday around 10am he messaged me on Fetlife and asked if we were still on for that night. I said, yes. And gave him my phone number, and suggested some restaurants. I was glad he'd confirmed. Gentlemanly manners, as he'd shown before.
And then I never heard from him again! He never texted. Nothing. Nada. Zip.
I'm not mad. I'm more worried! I hope he's OK. I fear the worst. Some kind of accident. At first I thought he'd gotten held up at work. But as time went on I thought, surely, even if he's in an important last minute meeting, he could go to the bathroom and tell me he was held up, gonna be late, needed to reschedule.
My evening wasn't a total bummer because a friend of mine was chatting me, and heard about my being stood up, and they were free, so we got together to hang out for a while.
I hope I hear back from this guy... sigh...
Yesterday around 10am he messaged me on Fetlife and asked if we were still on for that night. I said, yes. And gave him my phone number, and suggested some restaurants. I was glad he'd confirmed. Gentlemanly manners, as he'd shown before.
And then I never heard from him again! He never texted. Nothing. Nada. Zip.
I'm not mad. I'm more worried! I hope he's OK. I fear the worst. Some kind of accident. At first I thought he'd gotten held up at work. But as time went on I thought, surely, even if he's in an important last minute meeting, he could go to the bathroom and tell me he was held up, gonna be late, needed to reschedule.
My evening wasn't a total bummer because a friend of mine was chatting me, and heard about my being stood up, and they were free, so we got together to hang out for a while.
I hope I hear back from this guy... sigh...
I haven't visited my own blog in months! No wonder, having just reread about my last 2 dates. Yuck!
So much frustration and annoyance.
And then, I've had next to no messages on OKCupid or Fetlife, so I just stopped checking. But finally, 2 days ago, I checked in on FL just to look at pix. And I saw a couple guys had messaged me. I started chatting with one guy a bit.
Within 48 hours I got first messages from about 15 guys. I guess somehow I was marked as "active" and came to the attention of horny guys.
Nothing very interesting. Boring, or horny, or gross, or rude. One guy was trying to get my number but I noticed in his fetish list that there were 25 mentions of anal sex acts. What the actual fuck? I told him I wasn't interested in anal at all, and he said there was plenty of other things we could do. Yeah, right. He did have other kinds of kinky sex listed. But if he's that into anal, I just know he'd be pressuring me to do it before much time went by.
I finally did give my number to the first guy that had messaged me. I don't find him super interesting, but he's very interested in me. Maybe I'll meet him for coffee eventually, just for something to do.
So much frustration and annoyance.
And then, I've had next to no messages on OKCupid or Fetlife, so I just stopped checking. But finally, 2 days ago, I checked in on FL just to look at pix. And I saw a couple guys had messaged me. I started chatting with one guy a bit.
Within 48 hours I got first messages from about 15 guys. I guess somehow I was marked as "active" and came to the attention of horny guys.
Nothing very interesting. Boring, or horny, or gross, or rude. One guy was trying to get my number but I noticed in his fetish list that there were 25 mentions of anal sex acts. What the actual fuck? I told him I wasn't interested in anal at all, and he said there was plenty of other things we could do. Yeah, right. He did have other kinds of kinky sex listed. But if he's that into anal, I just know he'd be pressuring me to do it before much time went by.
I finally did give my number to the first guy that had messaged me. I don't find him super interesting, but he's very interested in me. Maybe I'll meet him for coffee eventually, just for something to do.
Ha. He wants an analcumpigslut to whom he can give an enema, then roughly fuck, and then cum in her ass, then put a plug in it all, just to name a few fun activities.
But there's lots of other fun stuff he likes too!
So, I did finally give that other guy my number Friday night, after he messaged me for half of Friday begging for it. All he did was say hi then. And then he didn't respond yesterday either except for 2 lines, hours apart. Today he messaged me and told me he had had a self soothing day. And he kept calling me "love" and "baby." I said I was mad at him. He said he'd come over and bring me coffee and hugs. I told him I thought he had bipolar or ADHD or was on meth. It took him a while to calm down from calling me baby, and joking about sex, to listen and understand I was giving him the heave ho.
Next!
I did talk to 2 other pleasant and fun guys last night. I am meeting one for lunch tomorrow in my town. Supposedly. We'll see if he turns up. He's fairly local. And he likes the kind of music I like.
The other one's an hour away. Seems like a long shot. He was cool though.
I had about 25 people message me in all, including one woman in the UK, and a 25 year old MF couple who obviously had not read my profile. Fucking unicorn hunter kids asking me to join them to spice up their relationship. Their profile actually said that, spice things up. Omfg.
Nothing. So much messaging and nothing good to show for it.
I have one guy who seems interested in "giving me some D.'" But he's an hour away and just seems like a player. He's got 10-5" of D, and is probably great in bed in other ways, from what he says, but there is something shallow and off-putting about him. He's an exhibitionist. He sent me short videos of him doing another woman, in real time! I got embarrassed. He said later he thought he'd gotten my consent. No. He had not. He had her consent! But not mine. It was a misunderstanding, I guess. But still. That's not something I find interesting, being in on his sex with someone else who I don't even know. And even though he said not, I think he'd want to share pix or videos of me with other women too. That's not my kink. When I told him what my kinks were, I didn't hear any enthusiasm.
2 days ago, another guy I'd been chatting with for a few days asked me to meet him for a drink, and asked me to tell him what day, he was free every night and on weekends. He's 49, he's bi, he likes big beautiful kinky bi women, he's divorcing. He could spell. He seemed OK enough to meet for a drink or dinner. So I said I meet him Tuesday (today). He's a half hour away. He was going to come to my town at 7:00 pm tonight after the gym (he's super jacked). So I figured we'd end up having dinner. He seemed really excited for the date.
Just now, I checked in on FL to confirm. He's gone (or he blocked me, you can't tell)! Another ghost.
I guess online dating just doesn't work when you're my age? Or something? Maybe I need to join some kinda "senior" dating site? I shudder to think about men in my age bracket though. I'm biased. But all the ones I've ever dated had a certain boring quality. Old fashioned values and interests. Unable to have sex. "Not funny, but he thinks he's hilarious," as only old men can be. Hoarders. Bitter and angry from hard knocks. Etc.
In better news, I did get a series of texts from Big Guy in the past few days. The big Fijian with the 6 kids? He's so sweet and I would love to see him. But. 6 kids and he's an hour away. It's just not practical.
I'm just kinda complaining to get it all off my chest.
I have one guy who seems interested in "giving me some D.'" But he's an hour away and just seems like a player. He's got 10-5" of D, and is probably great in bed in other ways, from what he says, but there is something shallow and off-putting about him. He's an exhibitionist. He sent me short videos of him doing another woman, in real time! I got embarrassed. He said later he thought he'd gotten my consent. No. He had not. He had her consent! But not mine. It was a misunderstanding, I guess. But still. That's not something I find interesting, being in on his sex with someone else who I don't even know. And even though he said not, I think he'd want to share pix or videos of me with other women too. That's not my kink. When I told him what my kinks were, I didn't hear any enthusiasm.
2 days ago, another guy I'd been chatting with for a few days asked me to meet him for a drink, and asked me to tell him what day, he was free every night and on weekends. He's 49, he's bi, he likes big beautiful kinky bi women, he's divorcing. He could spell. He seemed OK enough to meet for a drink or dinner. So I said I meet him Tuesday (today). He's a half hour away. He was going to come to my town at 7:00 pm tonight after the gym (he's super jacked). So I figured we'd end up having dinner. He seemed really excited for the date.
Just now, I checked in on FL to confirm. He's gone (or he blocked me, you can't tell)! Another ghost.
I guess online dating just doesn't work when you're my age? Or something? Maybe I need to join some kinda "senior" dating site? I shudder to think about men in my age bracket though. I'm biased. But all the ones I've ever dated had a certain boring quality. Old fashioned values and interests. Unable to have sex. "Not funny, but he thinks he's hilarious," as only old men can be. Hoarders. Bitter and angry from hard knocks. Etc.
In better news, I did get a series of texts from Big Guy in the past few days. The big Fijian with the 6 kids? He's so sweet and I would love to see him. But. 6 kids and he's an hour away. It's just not practical.
I'm just kinda complaining to get it all off my chest.
Pixi prefers me to have a bf because if he's giving me frequent sex, she says it "takes the pressure off her," and then paradoxically, it increases her desire for sex.
However, bfs seem to be a thing of my past. We need a new arrangement. I need to make her aware I need more sex, and ideally she can be happy to step up and engage in sharing herself with me.
I had a bit of a freak out about it all a week ago. She was nice and sympathetic. This week she's been great, flirty and romantic, and 2 nights ago she gave me a lavender oil back massage, and then we used my favorite toy and had a fantastic sex session. She really loved it too. We just need to make it happen.
She feels kinda bad to be going away this weekend, since it's Valentine's weekend. So that's another reason she's been paying me lots of attention, being emotionally present (as usual) and physically more lusty. I know she has that lusty, perverted kinkiness inside her. It's just sometimes lost in the midst of her intellectual interests, hobbies, anxieties, etc.
She and her bf are going to the annual kink con in the next state. I went last year. He and I shared the weekend. They went there on Friday together, and I arrived Saturday afternoon, then he left. Then Pixi and I spent the night there.
But I've been to this con several times. I remarked last year that it gets huger every year. They have at least 2 other hotels besides the one it's held at, for accommodations. But we found that there weren't enough panels and workshops for such a huge crowd. So we didn't actually end up getting in to any! So, all we did was wander around, shop (we bought the above mentioned toy last year there), eat, and people watch. I'm kinda over it.
Pixi is kinda over it too. But her bf is new to it, and he's always been so introverted. He's really enjoying coming out of his shell. So, I'm just gonna leave them to it.
So anyway, we've been paying extra attention to each other all week. We have also seen some great movies on our new big screen TV. We watched the Speilberg movie AI, and another Jude Law movie, Sky Captain and the World of tomorrow, 2 MST3Ks (getting ready to see that on tour live in March!), but the best movie was the new Oscar winning movie, Parasite.
Parasite was amazing. I literally felt every emotion one can feel, during it. It was super funny, we laughed, we felt disgust, there was TONS of suspense (more than I've even felt in Hitchcock), there was a little sexy stuff, there was mystery, there were many surprises and twists, there was horror. It was fast paced and it just sweeps you along. 4 stars.
Tomorrow we are going out to get brunch before she goes away.
However, bfs seem to be a thing of my past. We need a new arrangement. I need to make her aware I need more sex, and ideally she can be happy to step up and engage in sharing herself with me.
I had a bit of a freak out about it all a week ago. She was nice and sympathetic. This week she's been great, flirty and romantic, and 2 nights ago she gave me a lavender oil back massage, and then we used my favorite toy and had a fantastic sex session. She really loved it too. We just need to make it happen.
She feels kinda bad to be going away this weekend, since it's Valentine's weekend. So that's another reason she's been paying me lots of attention, being emotionally present (as usual) and physically more lusty. I know she has that lusty, perverted kinkiness inside her. It's just sometimes lost in the midst of her intellectual interests, hobbies, anxieties, etc.
She and her bf are going to the annual kink con in the next state. I went last year. He and I shared the weekend. They went there on Friday together, and I arrived Saturday afternoon, then he left. Then Pixi and I spent the night there.
But I've been to this con several times. I remarked last year that it gets huger every year. They have at least 2 other hotels besides the one it's held at, for accommodations. But we found that there weren't enough panels and workshops for such a huge crowd. So we didn't actually end up getting in to any! So, all we did was wander around, shop (we bought the above mentioned toy last year there), eat, and people watch. I'm kinda over it.
Pixi is kinda over it too. But her bf is new to it, and he's always been so introverted. He's really enjoying coming out of his shell. So, I'm just gonna leave them to it.
So anyway, we've been paying extra attention to each other all week. We have also seen some great movies on our new big screen TV. We watched the Speilberg movie AI, and another Jude Law movie, Sky Captain and the World of tomorrow, 2 MST3Ks (getting ready to see that on tour live in March!), but the best movie was the new Oscar winning movie, Parasite.
Parasite was amazing. I literally felt every emotion one can feel, during it. It was super funny, we laughed, we felt disgust, there was TONS of suspense (more than I've even felt in Hitchcock), there was a little sexy stuff, there was mystery, there were many surprises and twists, there was horror. It was fast paced and it just sweeps you along. 4 stars.
Tomorrow we are going out to get brunch before she goes away.
haha thanks.Not that he deserves another thought, but I half wonder if I was catfished with that guy... He told me he was divorcing, after just one year of marriage, a woman who he'd been seeing on and off for 10 years.
He told me that he sometimes liked to cross dress, and he liked leather and latex. But she wasn't on board with his kinks. So it didn't work out. He said he had 2 brothers and a sister he was close with, and he was staying with one brother and his wife.
He even told me that his bro was going to take him out on his birthday on Wednesday.
And so I wondered if he was so into body building to compensate for his femme side. Who knows? But maybe he wasn't really that muscular person in the photo. Maybe he just had a fake persona just so he could talk about cross dressing. I will never know. Feh.
Pixi had flowers delivered to me from an actual florist yesterday (Valentine's Day)! It was so special and sweet of her. She also gave me a card. And we did go out for lunch. She wanted to make sure I felt loved before she went away with her bf. <3 <3 <3 And I do.
Today I donated some stuff to Savers, got a coupon and went inside to see what was good. I found her a black shopper type purse with a drawing of a flirty Tinkerbell on it (with a green sequin dress! and a bright green lining) and I found some dolls, 2 or 3 of which will be special for her. I also got some toiletries we needed at CVS, and got her a half price heart shaped box of candy for when she comes home. I can fit all that in the purse.
Bluebird
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I don’t know what it is, but a lot of the guys who I end up in relationships with or that I find attractive are hoarders. It’s kinda gross. Though, I kinda think to myself at first, well I don’t have to live with them. But it’s nasty to think about sleepovers in a hoarder mess, that’s for sure!
Pixi ended up having a great time with her bf at the con, after all. She said it seemed much less crowded than last year! Maybe many people, like me, were overwhelmed by the crowds and the impossibility of getting into panels last year, so they stayed away. Oh darn.
So they went to 3 panels, I think, plus a drag show put on by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, including 2 of the sisters in the show, plus 2 "regular"drag queens and 2 drag kings. It was $60 for 2 tickets, and we thought of going last year, but decided we didn't want to spend the money. Of course, Pixi's bf has pots of money so he paid and it was a good show. He'd never seen a drag show before.
I kept myself busy at home and I had a good time. But Pixi came back her Monday evening and we had dinner and some good reconnection time (no sex, but I figured she'd need a day off). But then she started getting all feverish!
She went to bed early Monday night, and has barely gotten out of bed since, and now it's Wednesday afternoon. She's not seeming super congested, but she's got no appetite, and just no energy. I hope she starts to turn a corner. She seems a bit less feverish today. Yesterday, all she ate was a smoothie I made for her, water and Gatorade. She doesn't even want soup.
So far, I feel fine, knock wood.
Oh, I didn't get on Fetlife for a few days, and again, I had 14 new messages when I checked in this morning. The only one that caught my eye with their content was a guy from ... Quebec. Sigh.
So they went to 3 panels, I think, plus a drag show put on by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, including 2 of the sisters in the show, plus 2 "regular"drag queens and 2 drag kings. It was $60 for 2 tickets, and we thought of going last year, but decided we didn't want to spend the money. Of course, Pixi's bf has pots of money so he paid and it was a good show. He'd never seen a drag show before.
I kept myself busy at home and I had a good time. But Pixi came back her Monday evening and we had dinner and some good reconnection time (no sex, but I figured she'd need a day off). But then she started getting all feverish!
She went to bed early Monday night, and has barely gotten out of bed since, and now it's Wednesday afternoon. She's not seeming super congested, but she's got no appetite, and just no energy. I hope she starts to turn a corner. She seems a bit less feverish today. Yesterday, all she ate was a smoothie I made for her, water and Gatorade. She doesn't even want soup.
So far, I feel fine, knock wood.
Oh, I didn't get on Fetlife for a few days, and again, I had 14 new messages when I checked in this morning. The only one that caught my eye with their content was a guy from ... Quebec. Sigh.
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I hope she feels better soon. Sadly it just takes one person to go out sick to infect everyone
I hope you don't get it!
Thanks very much, Vicki!
YouAreHere
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Ugh... Con Crud. Not fun.
Here's hoping Pixi gets better soon, and that you avoid catching it!
Maybe Mr. Quebec could make some long-distance French phone calls?
Here's hoping Pixi gets better soon, and that you avoid catching it!
Maybe Mr. Quebec could make some long-distance French phone calls?