1000cryingdads
New member
Hi! I'm in my first successful polyamorous partnership and I was recently diagnosed with high risk HPV and cin 3, which just means that 2/3 of the surface of my cervix has pre-cancer cells present, its not cancer, but the last stop before becoming cancer. I just recently went through a LEEP procedure, which is done to cut out any pre-cancer cells, there is a 60-70% chance that this step will have treated my high risk hpv, although i will still always have the virus. I have to wait 6 months before knowing what my prognosis is.
The reason I came here is because I'm struggling a lot with the idea of what sex and relationships will look for me. I'm saddened by the amount of reading material on HPV I keep seeing that suggests one should be monogamous (bc the risk of HPV increases with more than one sex partner) I'm new to polyamory, and decided I wanted to practice it for the first time this year, ironically during a global pandemic and quarantine! I'm only dating one person atm, they have many other partners. Im currently having a running conversation with my partner about what our risk assessment is and how to have safe sex in the future, what kinds of barriers we should use ect. but im still feeling worried about the future of what pleasurable sex really is for me and I keep questioning whether Im doing everything to be extra safe. HPV spreads through skin to skin contact, and that makes me fearful of any kind of sex. I feel crushed by my results and the lack of discussion about hpv in the poly world. Is there anyone out there who is HPV+ and still polyamorous? If so do you have any advice for a person like me? I would love to hear from you and about anyone's experiences around hpv and polyamory! Thank you <3
The reason I came here is because I'm struggling a lot with the idea of what sex and relationships will look for me. I'm saddened by the amount of reading material on HPV I keep seeing that suggests one should be monogamous (bc the risk of HPV increases with more than one sex partner) I'm new to polyamory, and decided I wanted to practice it for the first time this year, ironically during a global pandemic and quarantine! I'm only dating one person atm, they have many other partners. Im currently having a running conversation with my partner about what our risk assessment is and how to have safe sex in the future, what kinds of barriers we should use ect. but im still feeling worried about the future of what pleasurable sex really is for me and I keep questioning whether Im doing everything to be extra safe. HPV spreads through skin to skin contact, and that makes me fearful of any kind of sex. I feel crushed by my results and the lack of discussion about hpv in the poly world. Is there anyone out there who is HPV+ and still polyamorous? If so do you have any advice for a person like me? I would love to hear from you and about anyone's experiences around hpv and polyamory! Thank you <3