As a newly single and fairly beautiful young woman , it’s no surprise I want to explore my sexuality. My best friend urged me to get on tinder to find dates and hookups, which was extremely off putting for me. Personally I don’t like things like tinder. However it bared some fruit. Like showing me an old friend from high school/middle school (A) was allowing her husband (C) to find them/himself a fwb/unicorn. A has already gone and had a male and female lover outside of C and even brought in a female for a threesome before. C has just never had his own open partner outside of A.
Right off the bat since I already knew A from before, I was ecstatic. They were quick to begin snap chatting and messaging me daily as well as hanging out with me almost every weekend. This has gone on for a month, all of us just being good ole buddies but the sexual tension between me and the husband was making me realize I needed to get my ducks in a row. Meaning ask more about the wife and her boundaries/rules to the most specific degree. To my surprise, her rules were very few and extremely open. 1) don’t go on dates with C that he would go on with her 2) don’t attempt to steal C from her. Simple enough for me.
Before, A had already been trusting me to be completely alone with C without her there. At first it made me uncomfortable so I kept a respectful distance until both A and C reassured their trust in me and each other. The first time me and C were truly alone was after A wanted to go to bed but C expressed he was still awake and wanted to stay up. If I’ve been drinking, I stay up as well so I was ok with that. Nothing sexual happened, we actually had a deep conversation and a little mild flirting. However, A seemed to eavesdrop on something I said about my triggers (unrelated to this whole story) and apologized to which I told her everything was fine and she was ok. As much as I tried to normalize her knowing everything we talked about, the way she knew certain things in detail made me seriously wonder if there was a camera in the living room. Anyways, she ended up coming back out and me and C put distance between ourselves. I wasn’t sure if she was jealous or not, it was very hard for me to tell. Since A had already had sex with a man and a woman within their open relationship, I was trying my best not to even consider it jealousy despite the strong vibe of jealousy I felt.
During all this time, they’re texting me daily. Both of them confirmed that during that last visit when I was alone with the husband, he wanted to make a move. A joked about how C was more shy than her to make a move, but I’ve gone over with her that since I haven’t been with a woman YET I’d be more comfortable having my sexual ice broken by a man since men are what I’m used to. She understood completely and even told me it would be ok if I just wanted him sexually only. So you see the very VERY openess in this marriage I was presented, yes?
Flash forward to current. The weekend before Valentine’s Day weekend. I’m invited over to hangout and drink as usual. Had some alone time with A where we had a deep conversation and started watching a movie until C got home. All of us enjoyed laughs, drinks, and movies until A was ready to go to bed because she had work early that morning. They always set up a blow up bed for me in their living room and this time the husband decided to try and tempt me with joining him in that bed. It took me a while to come around and feel comfortable, but I did. After a while, he finally made out with me and it was very clear the extreme sexual tension we had for each other. While we’re making out, A calls him back to their room for a discussion I’m unaware of, but it confirmed she was still awake (I assume it’s hard to sleep without your S/O so I wasn’t bothered). When he came back he told me he would stay around for another episode of the show we were watching but the make out session continued far past what he said. He did NOT want to go to bed, he clearly wanted to keep going and had to pull himself away. I’m respectful so I didn’t keep him, I urged him to go back to A as he said he would. In my mind, that’s my part in this. As I told him, this is their world and I’m just a part of it and never ever would I come before his wife. That’s VERY clear in my mind.
The next morning comes and A is going to work. C reassures me that I can stay if I want to so I do. We end up relaxing on the bed and he finally makes his move again. This time, he’s far more assertive about what he wants which is to have sex. Which was so intense, rough, and amazing. I have NEVER been screwed so hard in my entire life (sorry to be lewd), and after it was the classic both of us laying/sitting beside each other breathing heavily. Afterwards, I decide to go home. He walks me out, tells me he will message me later, and to get home safe.
Within 2 hours of getting home, he messages me to tell me that he obviously told A what we did. As an open relationship I would expect him to do that anyways. A didn’t take the news so well and was hit with a wall of feelings she didn’t expect to feel. Made me and C feel really terrible but both C and A reassured me that I did nothing wrong and it was between them now. We all still want to be close friends however, which I’m worried will be tough to do considering the immense sexual tension that was obviously between me and C. Now that we have had sex, it’s unrealistic for anyone to believe that tension would die so easily considering that fire was just viscously fueled. A told me that because this happened she’s decided to officially CLOSE their relationship.. so now I feel like THAT person. A told me that me and C can still be our own friends and she even still trusts us to be ALONE together because she really trusts us not to break her new rules.
The day following after however, the husband was the first one to text me before the wife did. His texts still seem flirty here and there. Already asked me how my legs were doing from the day before, which I curved the most politely I could, and he then said “if it makes you feel any better, my whole body is still sore.” He also tried to apologize for being “partly” responsible for any pain I felt the next day even though he knows he is 100% responsible. Clearly, he wanted to talk about it and I would want to as well if the open relationship opportunity hadn’t closed. It’s day 2 now and they’re still texting me daily like nothing’s happened.
I don’t know what to do. NEVER would I want to become a home wrecker but I’m also aware of human nature. As I said earlier, I think it’s pretty clear to me the sexual tension on both ends won’t die so easily. C already gives me vibes like he’s still thinking about/wanting me like that. I’m sorry, but aren’t things a little more tempting once you’re told you can’t have them? I’ll be keeping him in check for A for sure. I also have this weird feeling that A will open it back up after spending more time with me but I won’t get my hopes up. Still, I’d like that possibility. In a way I wonder how is this fair to C? A got to have more than one thing entirely on the side on her own AND with C but the moment C does it, she can’t handle it? I wonder if it’s because of my appearance. A is a gorgeous BBW with short hair and I’m more in the thick queen serving island girl vibes. Maybe she feels I’m prettier than her just because I appear slimmer? Which I don’t believe because I find her to be BEAUTIFUL to me. Any advice here would be welcome because idk where it all went wrong. We are still planning on hanging out and even going camping together. I’m so sad about this because everything felt like such a good fit and natural for us all, then I more or less ruined it..
Right off the bat since I already knew A from before, I was ecstatic. They were quick to begin snap chatting and messaging me daily as well as hanging out with me almost every weekend. This has gone on for a month, all of us just being good ole buddies but the sexual tension between me and the husband was making me realize I needed to get my ducks in a row. Meaning ask more about the wife and her boundaries/rules to the most specific degree. To my surprise, her rules were very few and extremely open. 1) don’t go on dates with C that he would go on with her 2) don’t attempt to steal C from her. Simple enough for me.
Before, A had already been trusting me to be completely alone with C without her there. At first it made me uncomfortable so I kept a respectful distance until both A and C reassured their trust in me and each other. The first time me and C were truly alone was after A wanted to go to bed but C expressed he was still awake and wanted to stay up. If I’ve been drinking, I stay up as well so I was ok with that. Nothing sexual happened, we actually had a deep conversation and a little mild flirting. However, A seemed to eavesdrop on something I said about my triggers (unrelated to this whole story) and apologized to which I told her everything was fine and she was ok. As much as I tried to normalize her knowing everything we talked about, the way she knew certain things in detail made me seriously wonder if there was a camera in the living room. Anyways, she ended up coming back out and me and C put distance between ourselves. I wasn’t sure if she was jealous or not, it was very hard for me to tell. Since A had already had sex with a man and a woman within their open relationship, I was trying my best not to even consider it jealousy despite the strong vibe of jealousy I felt.
During all this time, they’re texting me daily. Both of them confirmed that during that last visit when I was alone with the husband, he wanted to make a move. A joked about how C was more shy than her to make a move, but I’ve gone over with her that since I haven’t been with a woman YET I’d be more comfortable having my sexual ice broken by a man since men are what I’m used to. She understood completely and even told me it would be ok if I just wanted him sexually only. So you see the very VERY openess in this marriage I was presented, yes?
Flash forward to current. The weekend before Valentine’s Day weekend. I’m invited over to hangout and drink as usual. Had some alone time with A where we had a deep conversation and started watching a movie until C got home. All of us enjoyed laughs, drinks, and movies until A was ready to go to bed because she had work early that morning. They always set up a blow up bed for me in their living room and this time the husband decided to try and tempt me with joining him in that bed. It took me a while to come around and feel comfortable, but I did. After a while, he finally made out with me and it was very clear the extreme sexual tension we had for each other. While we’re making out, A calls him back to their room for a discussion I’m unaware of, but it confirmed she was still awake (I assume it’s hard to sleep without your S/O so I wasn’t bothered). When he came back he told me he would stay around for another episode of the show we were watching but the make out session continued far past what he said. He did NOT want to go to bed, he clearly wanted to keep going and had to pull himself away. I’m respectful so I didn’t keep him, I urged him to go back to A as he said he would. In my mind, that’s my part in this. As I told him, this is their world and I’m just a part of it and never ever would I come before his wife. That’s VERY clear in my mind.
The next morning comes and A is going to work. C reassures me that I can stay if I want to so I do. We end up relaxing on the bed and he finally makes his move again. This time, he’s far more assertive about what he wants which is to have sex. Which was so intense, rough, and amazing. I have NEVER been screwed so hard in my entire life (sorry to be lewd), and after it was the classic both of us laying/sitting beside each other breathing heavily. Afterwards, I decide to go home. He walks me out, tells me he will message me later, and to get home safe.
Within 2 hours of getting home, he messages me to tell me that he obviously told A what we did. As an open relationship I would expect him to do that anyways. A didn’t take the news so well and was hit with a wall of feelings she didn’t expect to feel. Made me and C feel really terrible but both C and A reassured me that I did nothing wrong and it was between them now. We all still want to be close friends however, which I’m worried will be tough to do considering the immense sexual tension that was obviously between me and C. Now that we have had sex, it’s unrealistic for anyone to believe that tension would die so easily considering that fire was just viscously fueled. A told me that because this happened she’s decided to officially CLOSE their relationship.. so now I feel like THAT person. A told me that me and C can still be our own friends and she even still trusts us to be ALONE together because she really trusts us not to break her new rules.
The day following after however, the husband was the first one to text me before the wife did. His texts still seem flirty here and there. Already asked me how my legs were doing from the day before, which I curved the most politely I could, and he then said “if it makes you feel any better, my whole body is still sore.” He also tried to apologize for being “partly” responsible for any pain I felt the next day even though he knows he is 100% responsible. Clearly, he wanted to talk about it and I would want to as well if the open relationship opportunity hadn’t closed. It’s day 2 now and they’re still texting me daily like nothing’s happened.
I don’t know what to do. NEVER would I want to become a home wrecker but I’m also aware of human nature. As I said earlier, I think it’s pretty clear to me the sexual tension on both ends won’t die so easily. C already gives me vibes like he’s still thinking about/wanting me like that. I’m sorry, but aren’t things a little more tempting once you’re told you can’t have them? I’ll be keeping him in check for A for sure. I also have this weird feeling that A will open it back up after spending more time with me but I won’t get my hopes up. Still, I’d like that possibility. In a way I wonder how is this fair to C? A got to have more than one thing entirely on the side on her own AND with C but the moment C does it, she can’t handle it? I wonder if it’s because of my appearance. A is a gorgeous BBW with short hair and I’m more in the thick queen serving island girl vibes. Maybe she feels I’m prettier than her just because I appear slimmer? Which I don’t believe because I find her to be BEAUTIFUL to me. Any advice here would be welcome because idk where it all went wrong. We are still planning on hanging out and even going camping together. I’m so sad about this because everything felt like such a good fit and natural for us all, then I more or less ruined it..
