Polyamory and the Bible Belt - Need Resources

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Tinyblu

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So, not only am I new to the lifestyle, I am having a REALLY hard time finding organic community. This forum has been a tremendous help, but I think I need to meet other REAL LIVE people who can be of a resource to me.

Here's my challenge... I live in the deep south, where Bible toting is a spectator sport and you are guaranteed to be asked what church you attend within the first 20 minutes of a conversation. I have tried google, but SURPRISE, nothing is coming up for Poly Meetup groups or links.

Any ideas for a preacher's kid that wants to explore polyamory/open relationships?
 
Have you tried Meetups.com, or okcupid.com? OK Cupid is a dating site. It has lots of poly people. You might find a group there.

Have you looked through here to see what's available? http://www.polyamory.org/

The other option is to google big cities around you. There is nothing in my area, but a quick 2 hour jaunt and suddenly I can be as poly-busy as I want to be. I don't really know where the deep south of the US is, as I am Canadian, so I can't get more specific.
 
Have you tried creating your own group? That is how groups start. Someone creates them. No doubt there are others out there also looking. Why not be the one they find?
 
Try:

Tristan Taormino's Opening Up » Resources » Local Organizations

Loving More » Local Groups and Communities

Polyamory.com » Online Poly Resources

Since there really is no specific "poly lifestyle," and it's all about how you incorporate multiple loving relationships into your own lifestyle, it's possible that if you pursue things you enjoy, and socialize frequently, you just might run across people who are open to it, perhaps where you least expect it. I have also read that another way to possibly find people is to associate with or join clubs where other alternative practices are accepted, such as co-housing, food co-ops, gaming, RenFaires, BDSM communities, Burning Man, nudism, sci-fi, Unitarian Universalist churches, intentional communities, ink and piercings, New Age and other "spiritual" philosophies, etc., where more free-thinking people will be found. Now, I know the Deep South is probably short on most of that, but maybe you can at least find folks who are involved in liberal politics or into the arts -- that might lead you somewhere.
 
Here's a YouTube video that explains what marriage is in the Bible. This is witty and thought provoking. Feel free to share it with people who know the Bible. Polygamy is a huge part of it. Remember that men having multiple wives is Bible sanctioned.


It certainly shows that "traditional" one man/one woman marriage isn't required in the Bible. Only poor men had one wife. :p
 
redpepper said:
Have you tried creating your own group? That is how groups start is that someone creates them... no doubt there are others out there also looking. Why not be the one that they find.
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After looking at the 40 people in my area that are interested in a polyamory group on Meetup.com, I have considered starting a group, but since I am so new to the lifestyle, I don't want to be the rookie coming in trying to put a group together. It is my hope that if I start a group, more of an expert will take the reins and help develop the group.
 
I understand completely! Living in the buckle of the Bible belt (central Oklahoma) I find the same thing. My young kids, who are in public schools, had other kids chastising them because of not attending a church, and even had Bibles placed in their backpacks. (Believe me, I was one mad mama!)

Since my spouse and I just came out of a relationship with someone who was too embarrassed to continue with us, when we do start looking again, well, let's just say it will be someone who is not afraid, even here in the buckle.
 
You might try the Unitarian Universalist Church ("UU") -- they are wonderful!
 
Tinyblu said:
After looking at the 40 people in my area that are interested in a polyamory group on Meetup.com, I have considered starting a group, but since I am so new to the lifestyle, I don't want to be the rookie coming in trying to put a group together. It is my hope that if I start a group, more of an expert will take the reins and help develop the group.
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I run a group here for women and I host many events. I find that the best way to do it is to not be an expert, but to be a facilitator, and be interested in the topic. That way, you can let go of control and allow the group to morph as it will. I would suggest having a topic, in case it's needed, but to just establish what the others want to achieve in the first meet up.
 
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