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    First time in a while feeling replaceable

    I think this was a great learning experience for me, and in the future i might just make it a limit where i don't date monogamous people. I have just known poly people who have had monogamous partners and it worked for them, and so when he and i began our relationship, i hadnt realized that...
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    First time in a while feeling replaceable

    Wow that was actually really great to hear. That’s why I love this place. Unbiased answers and all. So for me it was also the way he said what he said. Very nonchalant and like what he and I were doing wasnt “anything”. It felt like when he was saying those words like I was just a pit stop to...
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    First time in a while feeling replaceable

    My poly world has been going smoothly now for a couple months, and because I live in a high-digital nomad area, ive had rather short partnerships- but still have remained very close with everyone once they've left/ moved away. About a month ago I met B, and it was great! He knew I was poly...
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    Why cant I fall for anyone who lives near me

    Recently I moved to Thailand, and due to various things, I am no longer with Sir or Lion- who were both LDR back in the states. I started seeing a coworker, but things got complicated, so we slowed it down and are focusing on friendship and work. And then Beast just strolled into my life...
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    New Country new partner

    I recently moved to Thailand to be a teacher, and im absolutely loving it. For the summer I was teaching Preschool, but for the rest of the year I teach chemistry and physics. I became really good friends with the other high school science teacher, and she introduced me to another teacher about...
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    Been a while

    Last time I posted Lion and I were having some issues because of his breakup with his other partner. When I went to go see him I felt really ignored, and felt less-than. We talked about me finding a play partner in my city to keep my occupied while he needed space. That didn't last very long...
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    Not getting my needs met

    Yea, that is something we have talked about. We also brought up me finding a local Dom to help me meet my needs while his emotional resources are so low.
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    Not getting my needs met

    I wanna say thank you to everyone. Lion and I had some good talks and decided on some compromises to get through this together. There were some tears and I think it's all going to work out. This is just such a new territory for both of us, that fucking up a little is a bit inevitable. I took...
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    Not getting my needs met

    So for me it varies. Lately because I rarely see both of my partners physical intimacy to me is sexual intimacy. It helps reaffirm my importance to them, especially since we are open. However, light skin petting is also a form of physical intimacy that I respond well to. At this moment since...
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    Not getting my needs met

    Thank you so much Galagirl. That was really helpful. And you’re right that it’s ridiculous to think he will be over the break up so soon, I wasn’t thinking that, it was more that I thought when he saw me it would re focus him on “is” for a few days. I just cherish our time together and right now...
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    Not getting my needs met

    I need physical intimacy. It’s my main love language. It tells me you care and it tells me I’m important. I see me partners once a month and it is usually something addressed fairly quickly- with both partners. But it’s not there with lion right now.
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    Not getting my needs met

    Possibly. For me right now, its this feeling that I really only have one more day with him, and we haven't done anything expect for when I first got here. And it just is making me feel unattractive, and not wanting to get naked. Im just taking it all very personally, and I dont know how to talk...
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    Not getting my needs met

    I am in two LDR, and I am currently visiting Lion for the weekend and its going a little rough (an not in the fun way). Hes been going through a breakup for the past couple weeks, and as a result a big part of our relationship has become about trying to support him through this. However, I...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    I was never good at monogamy. I never cheated, but I wasn't happy. I constantly felt guilty for being attracted to people outside of my relationship and it was crappy. I hate the idea of having to 'choose' because if multiple things made me happy why is that a bad thing? And then after I broke...
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    Need some advice please

    Hi! Im sorry you're going through this! I hope you aren't stressing out too much. It is clear from what you are saying that having a non-monogomous relationship is really important to you, or at least something that you clearly want to freedom to explore. I can understand the hesitancy from your...
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