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So Bloom has been dating Techie for about five months. He's also dating Windy. About two months ago, he went from having a full-time job and a nice house to being unemployed and homeless, almost overnight. Since then, Bloom and I have let him stay over on frequent occasion (no big deal), and...

WHOA THIS THREAD BLEW UP. Thanks for the input, everyone. UPDATE: I'm doing much better now, overall. I struggled with the idea of competing for my wife's attention, and realized that we hadn't really needed to actively work on our relationship in years. Not that either of us have been...

Since my last thread, I've been in an intermittent state of deep introspection, trying to identify my feelings and maybe start to process them along the way. Short version: I'm learning the difference between understanding a concept intellectually and experiencing it the hard way. For example...

Thanks for the feedback. According to Bloom, a combination of a couple of these. Her overall goal is to be as OUT regarding polyamory as possible, e.g. to be able to walk into a regular (non-poly-support group) party and introduce her husband and boyfriend to the hosts like it's no big deal...

My wife and I have now been operating in an open marriage for about 20 months, and tonight I met what I can convincingly call my first meta. AKA, the first person to whom Bloom has developed a romantic/emotional attachment (or at least has voiced an attachment regarding) since we opened up. We...

Why: I was married to Bloom for nearly a decade without knowing she wanted to try BDSM. We opened up the marriage so she could find a dedicated dom instead of pressuring me to do stuff I wasn't into, and so that I could maybe finally come out of the closet in a few areas. How: We started...

This MAGIC IN A BOTTLE.

Sweet tea at the moment. Later, Franziskaner Hefeweisse with dinner, and a healthy dose of moscato d'asti while watching Deadpool afterwards.

This has been on my mind today, and I thought it could make a good discussion here. DISCLAIMER: All of the experiences I've been partied to on this subject have been WIVES of deployed HUSBANDS, so that obviously influences my thoughts on this topic. Feel free to provide insight into the...

Be careful of getting twisted up in the semantics. She may see him as her primary because she doesn't have any other relationships, or devotes the most time to her relationship with him. What does your partner think of being referred to as his girlfriend's primary?

It's great that you have achieved this level of stability in your relationship. However, my experience with poly thus far is that its foundational idea is "No one way is THE way," apart from abusive, manipulative, or nonconsensual nonmonogamy. My identity as a person is based in my marriage...

The Seatbelts - Yoko Kanno piano solo

Which is why you should be COMING OUT, not hiding your face. Determine if hiding your face (and thus bringing unnecessary baggage to any new prospective partners) is worth whatever would be put at risk by coming out.

While I agree that OKC is frustrating on many levels, this question needs to be answered before you continue. If you can't be out and proud, whether as poly or as bi, you need to reevaluate both, as well as what is keeping you from being so. Additionally, who are you afraid of running into...

Like what? When I think of "sweet stuff," I think moscato d'asti. Of course, "cinnamon" equals "Fireball" to me.