Recent content by Cardinal

No, I didnt think I implied that. I'm a firm believer that pain is a monster, when you mistreat someone's monster, it holds on tighter. I don't wanna live in a world filled with monsters. She needs alignment, healing takes alignment, so I wouldn't dare walk down that road till she and I are...

That is correct.

I'm actually reaching out for advice. I have a very healthy spontaneous relationship with a new partner. Communication is good. Comparability is top notch. But there's an elephant in the room. She sufferred extreme childhood sexual abuse that resulted in physical scaring and some emotional...

It seems most of this is the result of conservative South. My lawyer handled my last custody case, allowed me to employ unconventional methods in court and we had resounding success. The thing is no one wants to divide anything, sell cars or houses, remove kids from home, or actually end our...

So.. We are kind of crushed. We were told unequivocally that we had to live apart for 18 months, have to take it to court, and had to both have our own lawyers. I assumed the last one but being forced to actually separate seems a high price to pay. Being married isn't who we are anymore and we...

This is good advice, my above post withstanding, when I came out at my new job, one single calm conversation resulted in actual disciplinary action. It was really something out of a LGBT special. I was told, and I quote, "You are to refrain from speaking about your personal business at work...

That blog was extremely insightful, thank you.

Your wife lacks the two cornerstones of healthy relationships, honesty and a commitment to act with kind intentions. Enlist the best friend against her. Divorce court is dirty, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Sorry for your troubles.

My wife and I's period of withdrawal into closed borders has resulted in what some may consider a strange outcome. I am poly, my wife is poly, we are atheists. We were mono when we got married. We no longer believe in the legal and religious institutions of marriage. To clarify we still...

A bit of your dialogue about your husband has a sort of possessive codependency quality to it. When you say share your love I assume you mean your husband because your love for him is your own and not something anyone but you controls, him on the other hand... Isn't he in control of who HE...

Noted. I'll concede to a lack of understanding. The being withdrawn is a part of who I am, sometimes I disengage from reality. This used to manifest as extreme anxiety and depression but mostly I just use these periods to reflect on things anymore.

I'm curious what an appropriate level of communication is about a partner with another partner. I recently ended my relationships with a couple people for personal reasons, nothing they did wrong I'm just struggling with some personal stuff; so maybe this stems from a new imbalance I've created...

It gets better. We have dealt with this issue three-fold in our relationship and each went very differently. We bear three labels that have very nasty meanings to the people we are around. My family is dead and my two remaining sisters are hyper-intellectual so judge life only by the quality of...

I'm new to this so perhaps you can provide something anecdotal or an experience of some sort that illustrates why you feel this way? How long honestly? from a personal perspective when my 8 year relationship died I would have given anything to have someone around to hold and be held, at least...

We've gone through a lot of what your talking about and decided along th way we would not do threesome or triads unless they occurred spontaneously or in the wild as you call it. Your poly seems to be operating on a rule many consider short sighted called the one penis policy. I'm not sure why...