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Update, I did the hardest thing and broke up with him. He went on one last date with the other GF, which I was okay with. Before he left to meet her, he said I had no reason to be nervous or feel insecure. It was over with her and we can focus on us. We also chatted about the number of summer...

Very sound advice. My trouble is that I get so upset so quickly, especially when I hear the words “feelings” and “new girlfriend” in the same sentence. I go from 0 to 100 in 2 seconds...and then que the tears. A little backstory, my ex-husband left me for our mutual poly girlfriend. They both...

Yes, it’s good news. But if history repeats itself, he’ll change his mind in a couple days and decide he doesn’t really want to break things off with his other GF and does want to continue dating separately. This is his wish toy washy nature and it’s so hard to read him and know what to expect.

N No, he’s not asking me to be monogamous and end things with my other BF. Rather, he’s concerned about all the time apart we’re spending with our others. That it’s causing issues for our relationship...and because he’s developed feelings for someone who he can’t happily be with because she’s...

Yes, good point about him needing to own his feelings...

Hi everyone, Cas78 here in need of more advice for the ongoing saga that is my open relationship. If you recall, my BF vacillates between loving and liking me...and had a new GF he wanted to take on vacation, etc. As of Monday, he says they’ve decided to break up because she is monogamous and...

Yeah, this is Mr Wishy Washy. He’s done a good job convincing me this new woman is just a FWB and there’s no threat of her taking my place. I believe him as we are open and honest with eachother. He did recently take her on a weekend getaway and it wasn’t as painful as I imagined it would be...

Hi all, Maybe you saw my other post “Open Relationship Trouble”. The BF and I have worked out some of our issues and things are good again. However, he now has a new GF that he would like to take on vacation to Iceland. I’ve been opposed to this in the past because I feel it’s an opportunity...

Yes, all valid points. We do thoroughly enjoy each other's company and this is what makes it so damn hard to pull the plug, even in spite of his bad behavior. But, I do hope dating others guys will help me pull away and find something more substantial and fulfilling.

Great question and I don't have an answer ultimately. I suppose part of it is that I don't want to be alone, which is why I am dating others. I like the idea of finding someone else I enjoy spending time with and slowly phasing out my relationship with Mr. Whisy Washy.

You’re right about his ex. I do think he eventually plans to go back to her after his libido dies. In the meantime, he’s very attractive, successful, and is trying to seduce as many women as he can until the inevitable happens. So I’m an idiot thinking I’m any different from the rest of his...

Yeah,

I do know I want someone who isn’t going to want me one day and the next tell me there’s an expiration date on the relationship. Other than this part of the relationship, we’re great friends and really enjoy eaxhorher’s company. He’s not a bad person, he’s actually wonderful and very giving. But...

I I do agree time apart is warranted and I do need to prioritize my needs above his.

I like your perspective! And he would NOT be happy being secondary, but he made his own bed in this regard. I do plan to start dating again, and have 2 dates on the calendar already. The ridiculous part of this is that he really doesn’t like me dating other men 🤦‍♀️ Huge double standard here...