Hi all,
Maybe you saw my other post “Open Relationship Trouble”. The BF and I have worked out some of our issues and things are good again. However, he now has a new GF that he would like to take on vacation to Iceland. I’ve been opposed to this in the past because I feel it’s an opportunity for their relationship to grow and perhaps overshadow ours. As his primary, I’m very protective of us and am fearful of another woman taking my place (this has happened in the past with my ex-husband and our mutual GF...ended in divorce and my husband and ex GF are now together and monogamous). So, PTSD is a big issue for me and my BF doesn’t really seem to get it and keeps pushing to spend more time with his new lady. I’m also having a terrible time trying to meet someone else to spend time with while he’s with her. I’ve been on numerous dates with duds and am exhausted from the effort. So this certainly adds to my frustration with our current situation. Any advice is welcome! I just need to figure out a constructive way to manage my jealously and stop viewing this other woman as such a major threat. My BF assures me I will remain his primary, but I’m just so scared about the past repeating itself.
Maybe you saw my other post “Open Relationship Trouble”. The BF and I have worked out some of our issues and things are good again. However, he now has a new GF that he would like to take on vacation to Iceland. I’ve been opposed to this in the past because I feel it’s an opportunity for their relationship to grow and perhaps overshadow ours. As his primary, I’m very protective of us and am fearful of another woman taking my place (this has happened in the past with my ex-husband and our mutual GF...ended in divorce and my husband and ex GF are now together and monogamous). So, PTSD is a big issue for me and my BF doesn’t really seem to get it and keeps pushing to spend more time with his new lady. I’m also having a terrible time trying to meet someone else to spend time with while he’s with her. I’ve been on numerous dates with duds and am exhausted from the effort. So this certainly adds to my frustration with our current situation. Any advice is welcome! I just need to figure out a constructive way to manage my jealously and stop viewing this other woman as such a major threat. My BF assures me I will remain his primary, but I’m just so scared about the past repeating itself.