Recent content by charlie_jumper

Hello, just wanted to give an update. Me and my "wife" visited a Polymeeting and it was good. There were friendly openminded People and i enjoyed it. At the beginnig i didn?t felt good, because i do not feel good around other people that i do not know. there was one gorgeous girl i talked...

I think we are a great fit. After a troublesome Start (she had to get rid of a toxic relationship herself) things only got better. We had a few "downs" in our relationships or in Life, but i know that a lot of relationships have "downs" now and then. Also i always stand by her and always was...

Hello, i do not know if i`m a real poly. I always had that thought or feeling if love someone i will love them forever. And i still love the people i felt in love in the past. That has nothing to do with sexuality. I have friends that i have no sexual relationship with. I have male friends...

I think you have got really good advice in here. I think it is important to share your thoughts and feelings, because you have a plan and a date of the begin of the Surgeries. I can imagine that the waitingtime and your desire for relationships puts you under pressure, but share your thoughts...

He is Not really lovebombing her, but He has a peer with her and is overstrained by bis situation. He doesn't want to get "outed" and has just the connection to my friend, not to the Others, because they have their own stuff they Talk about... I know that it is Common to deal with Creepers...

Thanks for your input. a friend told me that she has a man in her Therapygroup who is also poly. She was paired with him in a groupexcercise where people should show their boundarys with long Sticks. He and her began to play, tease and fight/spare with him - she had fun, she said - at the end...

Actually i think i´m more of a pessimist. But also i war "pink glasses" as you say in German. That means if you want something to be good, you only want so see the good things. Maybe there is a pair of my favorite shoes (i only wear 3 different Shoemodels for about 20 years and a lot of...

Ok, now i have to clarify again ^^ Thanks for that. My "Wife" isn`t actually married with me, but we know each other for 12 Years and it started as an on off relationship where i was somewhat of "hidden" from certain people (e.g. her Family). At the Time we had that "on/off thing" she had a...

Firstly thanks for your comment. It feels good to read positive response. If im`m honest - i maybe have some problems with the old "receiving the send message" thing. I think she is exactly saying stuff like "I'm not at a place where I want to talk about that" or "No need to worry about it for...

Yesterday we talked again and it was a good talk. I enjoyed seeing her smile again. She stated that she can`t stay the "heaviyness" at home at the Time. I had a hard time the last 2 weeks, but i will come to that below: We talked about the Communication, and that situation is only existing a...

I did that. After i triggered her, she did not want to talk anymore, she said that she is tired and wasn`t able to hug me. I couldn`t sleep very wll, maybe 2 hours and thought about waht i did wrong.... The Thoughts circled in my head and after she was awake, i apologized for that. I explained...

Thanks, that answers a lot of questions. I lurked around a bit already. Maybe i'm also a BIG Part of that phenomena :D When i want to buy a new Bike (silly example) and found a Bike that suits my needs, then i would read a Lot of Reviews. But i only want to read the good stuff. If i read "do...

Hello yesterday me and my "wife" talked about her needs. I told her that i think i would totally fineif she would have a girlfriend. But that i would not be ok with some circumstances. For Instance we have a female friend (P), i love her (like her) but she is sexually not attractive for me. I...

Hello, i've read a lot about polyamory. It seems that everything i read ist about how good polyamory is: .) It solves Problems .) It makes you happier .) It makes you more fulfilled .) It is easier to raise children .) You enounter a lot more positive and good People .) It Doubles, dribbles...

I use "Charlie" because I can relate to a lot of "Charlies" that struggle with life, mostly Charlie Brown. Also it is a nice short nice nickname that isn't too odd. I wanted a name that didn't stick out too much, seem "normal and familiar" and was anonymous. A lot of people call me Charlie in...