Recent content by dancepants

I do breath work. So, breath in for the count of 5, pause, and breath out for the count of 7. I'm not sure what kind of therapy you're in, but I've found cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety helpful. Also, I think jealousy is an easy outlet for anxiety, so just working on calming myself...

My partners and their partners are welcome in my home. I've been to parties and social gatherings with metamors. I've slept in the same bed with two partners, and slept in the same bed with my partner and her partner before. I like have friendships where they naturally occur. Generally, I tend...

Oh, Blubird, I found my login to tell you cried tears of joy that you are Michigan's mother!

I also need a lot of words of affirmation. Sometimes I ask for live letters, because I can read them over and over. Would that work for you?

Time to break up (you already did?). Don't read social media. Block it. You're out. Not your circus, not your monkeys. Its hard, but just stop.

I wouldn't offer something I couldn't give freely. So, I wouldn't tell meta that I'd help their relationship if I wasn't willing to in certain ways. Like, I'd let them know I'd contact him whenever and however I want. So, stop offering things you don't want to give. Just don't offer. Also, it...

I wouldn't agree nor ask my partners to agree to not develop feelings. She may be ready for you to have strong feelings for someone, but you may get comfortable with her not developing feelings. And then bam, she may. It could lead you to feeling betrayal. This is a common pitfall I see. She...

It sounds like you have tender spots from past hurts that were pushed. I'm sorry you're hurting. You're angry. It's good you can recognize that feeling. So, be angry. Your partner isn't treating you well. Regardless of how I or anyone else would feel, this is how you feel. Your partner is...

It's possible that she wants some things just for herself. Privacy doesn't necessarily have anything do with you or y'all's relationship. You've assigned meaning to this already. You don't have to make it a thing.

Not sure if this is wanted or helpful, but when people's pronouns are difficult for me, I practice talking about them aloud to friends over and over until my brain just accepts it. When I misspeak, I apologize, correct and move on.

I'd really like to encourage you to go to that meetup. Maybe you could be cautiously optimistic. When I was trying to make friends I kept going to the same events that interested me for months. Eventually I made really good friends, and I got to spend time focused on my interests. It took...

I wonder what it would be like for you to try to have a close platonic friendship, maybe with a woman, so that it would never be sexual for you.

What's nice is that your partner willingly stepped back from this behavior while you sort things out. So, it sounds like you have some time, which may be helpful for your anxiety in the meantime. Accept it when he offers you something that you need. Don't feel bad, it sounds like he did it...

You asked for opinions, and then what to talk to him about. Really most importantly, what are your opinions? That what you need to talk about with him. That said, here are my opinions. I don't do it. I don't want my partners to be lying to their partners about me. So, I won't date people who...

Hi! I'm dance pants. I've been reading this for a long while, and decided to get involved. I'm a poly queer mom. I have a kiddo, and three partners. 6,5, and 3 years respectively. I'll call them: adventure, smarty, and beautiful, respectively. kiddo I will call kiddo.