GalaGirl

Hi GG,

I just wanted to say that I have been reading these forums for a few years now. My relationship has transitioned from LTR monogamy while young adults, to marriage/family, to DH cheating phase, through recovery, to open to poly. We are doing REALLY well right now. Our relationship has never been this awesome But we still have to iron out our wrinkles...

I want to say that I really appreciate your participation on this board and your thoughtful, clear, and 110% helpful advice. Thanks for your public contribution here. You are helping many relationships find clarity amidst the inevitable emotional weather of living.

I tend to wax poetic with words and I find your to-the-point posting style (with awesome links to resources) to be a great guide. Before coming across your posts I came to understand my own fluctuating emotional weather but never in such a clear way! Now I adopt many of your go-to phrases

With appreciation,

Katrpillar

In my relationships...

PARTNERS HAVE RIGHT TO:
Clear communication
Expect support from partner
Be nurtured
Get needs met
Responsiveness
Constructive feedback
Constructive conflict resolution

PARTNERS EACH BE RESPONSIBLE FOR:
Know and state needs, wants and limits
Follow thru on promises. Do not ding intentionally or thoughtlessly.
Know the math tiers in this config
Tending your own and your partner's healths: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual
Emergency preparedness
Care for own equipment/stuff
Tell if keeping a confidence can hurt someone/is hurting someone

MY LIMITS

A) No lying / lies of omission. 1 strike you are out. Just hard truth it to me.

B) Anything else I'll negotiate on 3 strikes you are out. More? You are not a "give serious try" player who gives holds up responsibilities in relationship. Don't play with me. Bye.