Recent content by GalaGirl

You still don't have to. Just because your wife has had a "lightbulb moment" doesn't mean you have to be up for open marriage/polyamory. You are fine with other people doing poly. You don't want any for you. Nothing wrong with that. Why did she tell the crush before telling you? If she...

What happened? You can write it here. You don't have to use real names. It could plants, animals, or even colors like "Red"is the poly friend, "Orange" is your wife, "Yellow" is your wife new poly partner. What got derailed? Where would you like to be instead? GG

It kind of sounds like the NRE has worn off. It usually lasts 6-24 months, and I note that you + he are at the 6 months mark. Maybe it helps you to see it in a bullet list. TIMELINE Feb 2026 -- He started dating you 6 months ago. Mid-April 2026 -- 2. 5 months into dating you, he tells you he's...

This is not unusual, but it's not polyamory. Is this like a cuckold or hotwife thing for him? You could talk about that. Do you even want to do this? Could you just make stuff up to tell him? Leave it in fantasy? Is that a safer way to try this on? It's probably not a good idea during a work...

IndieSolo, they were posting about this on Reddit too. But you are right. They didn't post that detail here. Karl, I get this feels hard. But it doesn't sound like she's the one "ranking" you. What is your desired outcome? Do you want romantic exclusiveness? Want to stop doing this ranking...

I don't know if this helps you any. Some people make "mixed marriage" or "mixed relationship" work. Like a traveler with a homebody, a vegetarian with a non-vegetarian, one religion with another, dating for casual sex on your side and dating for polyamory on hers, and so on. They have enough...

If parallel is comfortable enough, why go over there? Why would that limit your relationship growth with him? Or do you mean you want to grow a different metamour relationship with her? I think it is what it is. She's a patient person with mental health things. You don't have to become her free...

I don't know if this helps you any. Here's what sticks out to me. Don't do this role. Do you not expect the hinge to prepare all this stuff, since he's the one you're actually dating, and the one who is hosting you all there as his guests? Why would your metamour have to do it? Why would...

I agree with the others on the poly hell thing. Who would that benefit? Bob? You don't have to share anything you do not want. You also don't have to give all and sundry dating access to you. I think YOU get to decide what you are and are not up for. If you are done with Cee? End it. If you...

I don't know if this helps you any. It sounds like if you are going to continue to triad, you could leave it at dyad dates 1:1, and only occasional group dates, or none at all. If you have triad group dates, no sex/making out/sleepovers yet. It's too soon. People can make out/share sex when...

I don't get it. Basically, she broke up with you because her husband wanted her to. And she's back into the swinging world because her husband wants to do that, too? Meanwhile she's not actually broken up with you. You two are maintaining an emotional connection over WhatsApp and she keeps up...

Here's what I think. I don't know if it will help you. I don't think breaking your own agreement "just for fun" was a good idea, and unfortunately this seems to be exactly the kind of situation that agreement was meant to prevent. You and your partner agreed that dating other parents from...

That's a lot. I hope you feel a bit better getting it out. It kind of sounds like you are realizing that you are a late in life lesbian, and realizing that you want co-primary, if you do polyamory, while your husband wants veto power and a primary-secondary model, with him as primary. So it's...

I could be wrong, but it sounds like both of you assumed things instead of actually talking and checking in, and it turned out one assumed one way, and the other assumed the other way. Partner: “We never actually closed, even though nobody was dating other people. I still have my historical...

As for your questions: A) Why does it have to start right away as a triad? Couldn't it be (e.g.,) your wife dates X for a year, and if it pans out, and people are okay with it, X dates you as well, the year after that? Like, it starts as a V and it becomes a triad over time, rather than an...