Recent content by Mynotoar

Thanks all for the replies and for feeding back with your stories. I guess the situation trips me up because I would feel a little guilty if I fantasised about someone else. Especially as there are some people who I would want to fantasise about whom it would be really hurtful for my partner if...

I really hope I can. Currently going through CBT to try and work through this and figure out a way. I just don't want this relationship to end. Equally, I'm scared for the future, and I can't see it because I know that the unhappiness will keep cropping up unless I either nix this desire or feel...

Hi Mags, Thanks for sharing your story. I looked up the book Sex at Dawn - it seems like an interesting idea, although it also seems to have attracted a lot of criticism from scholars. In any case, I'm wary of any broad conclusions about whether the human race as a whole are inclined to being...

Hi 3908. It's an interesting idea. I'm fairly sure that this is something my partner would not be on board with - especially given that the Covid risk now is not going away any time soon. To be fair, until the pandemic completely disappears, I would have the same reaction if she was considering...

Hi GalaGirl, thanks for the detailed response. Well, it's not so much that I'm being super restrictive with myself, but that as a result of how I hurt her when I was messing around, I know for sure that she would never be willing to open up. We've talked about it a lot, because she knows that I...

I'm (possibly) poly, and my partner is mono. We attempted an OR when we first started going out, but I hurt her a lot in the process. Eventually I decided to be with her practising mono, and not seeing other people. I still feel a sadness about not being able to have other experiences. I don't...

My current partner and I have been together for over 3 years (we've broken up twice but it's been 2 years since we got back together.) I started to think I was poly before I met her, and communicated that. She was initially "okay" with us entering into an open relationship (but it wasn't really...

I haven't done it... successfully. I tried to make a relationship work as an OR with someone who definitely wasn't suited for it. It just led to unhappiness. So I don't know what it's like yet. I'm definitely okay with partners having other relationships and sexual relations. It's okay if they...

I came here because I've been struggling to find answers about my own relationship identity. I've never really been happy in a monogamous relationship, and most often in relationships I've felt like I've wanted to be physically intimate with someone else. So when I found out about poly, it...