Recent content by nycsinger2000

This is long, and I completely understand it if no one reads it. I guess I need to put it into the universe. I guess I need to hear whether I was right or wrong. Any words of comfort will help. It's over that won't change but I need to know that I'm not crazy in thinking I did everything I...

I understand that it is HIS body and he has a right to make his own choices. I do also understand that it is my choice to be with him as much as it is his choice to be with me. If I have to understand that non monogamy is a need for him he has to understand that, that need is very...

Thanks for your reply. I know it's not always easy for people on here to understand my needs. I'm sure many of you have always found the concept of non-monogamy to be completely natural and therefore the idea of your partner being free to have sex with other people is less threatening. I'm...

Hi everyone If any of you have read my past posts you know that my boyfriend and I were struggling to move from a monogamous arrangement to an open one. He feels that his nature is free and open and I've always felt more naturally monogamous. Anyway, I'm happy to say that we are back...

I'm sure you're all right and just telling me something I don't want to hear. I have five years of love, friendship, tears, pain and joy invested in this man. I've never felt so strongly about anyone and for so long. As much as he tells me he feels the same way, he doesn't show me, at least...

Thank you for this. This was helpful advice without judgement which is what I was looking for. It's encouraging to hear you say that when you and your partner travel together you are together. I don't feel unreasonable in wanting that and if we do end up establishing a commitment again, I may...

Sorry but you don't know us. I wasn't asking for lectures about weather or not I'm lying to myself about us being able to make this work. I already get enough of that from my friends. I'm well aware that he may never be able to treat me the way I treat him but I'm willing to give it time. I...

I'm not exactly sure what the word couple means to you, to me it's another way of describing 2 people in a committed relationship... By committed I mean being committed to doing what it takes to be stay together and in love. It doesn't mean a monogamous commitment or that I expect to be the only...

I appreciate what you all are saying and I understand. Believe me, weather or not He can be a good partner is still something I'm assessing. I called him my partner BC it's easier than explaining the whole situation again. He has also introduced me to people as his partner a few times. Also...

I'm wondering how other couples deal with this. I personalty don't want to feel like I'm not my partners choice if I'm with him. If he enters into a committed relationship with a secondary partner, I do understand that there may be times we'll all need to be at the same place and time but we...

Thanks. I talked to him today. Even my calling it "dating" is an issue to him. He said I'm fluid I don't see things that way, so I told him I do. If I were his boyfriend I'd expect that if have to be put in a position on occasion to be in the same room with his other partners but in not his...

He feels that he's single and doesn't have to ask me if I mind

Thank you GalaGirl. I do appreciate this, and I know that he wasn't thinking fairly. That is a work in progress for him and he is learning. He's a very in the moment person and forgets to think about the consequences that could occur after the moment at times and it's something he's working...

There is more history than you realize. We were together for 5 years before splitting. I'm the only person he sees consistently for 5 months now and we're testing wether being poly will work for us in the future with the intent of eventually making a commitment again.

Thanks It's a big party and part of a very open, sexually free community. I'm sure I will meet other people there and there will be other people there that I know but no one I feel particularity close to. I'm not extremely comfortable being alone without a wing man. I think I'm also having...