Recent content by Wisp

Wow that's tough, and you are brave to explore this. Beloved and I waited until the NRE was starting to wind down before we entered a physical relationship. It was HARD to be patient, the attraction was so strong. We used that time to date, get to know each other, talk about boundaries and...

So I put up a profile for fun, and I told Beloved. He wanted to see it, and once he re-activated his five year old account to do so, guess who was my number one match at 96%? Beloved! :D So I guess it does work. LOL

Just read this to Beloved and he laughed!

Today was another surreal moment in my newish life as a member of a poly family. I was very annoyed (to put it lightly) about something Beloved was doing, and I wanted to have a talk with him about it. I called LP and the conversation went like this: Me: LP, I'm really upset about something...

Haha! I just took that personality quiz and guess what I got? ENFP! And as far as age goes-- I am in my 40's and my partners are in their early 50's. I had an open marriage in my 20's but closed it when kids came along. Did not know what poly was, or that it was a "thing" until about a year ago.

Nothing wrong with being needy, Bluebird! Sounds like you all accommodate in order to meet your need to say goodnight by respecting personal time, too, when you are snuggled down with the other partner. For all of us, our day is not complete until the goodnights and I love you's are said...

Every relationship is different. In our family, we all text each other goodnight and I love you every night. But that is something we talked about and all expressed a desire for. Your wife doesn't have to message him from your actual bed . . she could just send him a quick text as she's...

As a person who suffers from sleep issues, I have finally just broken a 6 month cycle of insomnia, including a trial of Ambien (which didn't work). I think if you set up a routine that you use every night, it will help you feel at home wherever. Do you read before you sleep? I read a bit on my...

About 2 years ago my then-13-year-old said to me, "Mom, I think I'm bi." I asked her back, "Do you think, or do you know?" She said, "I know I am bi." I have suspected and felt she was somewhere on the queer spectrum since she was very young. It's just the way people are wired, to answer the...

This is a tough place to be for both of you. Sometimes you don't know what you can tolerate or live with until you try it for awhile. I think she may be in this position where she's willing to try it and see. Give her room to hurt (I am learning this lesson right now with the mono person in our...

I was driving my car with my 12 year old sitting next to me, riding in silence. Then she said, "I'm so glad you're my mom." My heart swelled up and I told her I'm glad she was my daughter. Then I asked what made her say what she did. She said, "You are just a really great mom. You are so...

Yes you have good points here! And I am very happy even as we continue to grow as people as we grow as a family. I had read of many poly families where growth was limited by rules, and I think they were put into place by the primary couple (or one member of it) to make sure they were always the...

I hope the hiccups pass soon. This is not always easy, is it? Okay here goes-- We start off by "in a perfect world, I desire . . ." Categories are-- -- I desire for myself -- I desire for the relationship between LP and I -- I desire for the relationship between Beloved and I -- I desire...

Kevin, thanks for your feedback. I really value your experience and the consistent good advice I've seen on other threads. I can't believe what a difference my change of mindset has made, and how it also released LP's burden of me feeling bad when she was feeling bad. LP is a very brave...

I've had a couple long days of work and am behind on this thread. One more day and I'll come back and share. Stay tuned. ;)