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The last few posts have helped a lot. Thank you for taking the time to post these. I know some of the things I need to work on. FOr now, I need a bit of distance, and distraction, some artistic outlet to take my mind off of it. Its been like a solid week of this.. I need a break :) Thank you all...

Our conversations have been very very good at times, dispersed with some tension, but the majority of the conversations have been good, and even made me feel much more connected and closer to him. I think I have figured out my issue that is deep deep down.. I have to figure out how to work...

I do not want swinger style sex... I admit I made some mistakes. We all 4 Talked about rules before we went down there, although on the ride, After my husband and I talked I was able to let go of a lot of what we had talked about. Initially her husband and myself were more restrictive. My...

I should add.. My husband and I decided to do Poly 4 months ago, my husband has had his gf 4 months, so I have been learning as we go in this. Jane, we were on a trip in a different state, I had no choice but to witness this, once I was in it.

As I mentioned before, She and I are also friends. She is married, the hope was that I would also connect with her husband. We are finding we made a lot of first time mistakes. A lot. First off we stayed in their home (financial reasons as we couldn't have made the trip otherwise). We were...

Oh I had missed several of these replies, didnt realize the thread continued. I appreciate all the advice. I will say, after I spoke with both my Husband and His GF(who is also a friend of mine) things calmed down. Her husband and I did continue to play games together and have discovered we...

Thanks for the advice guys.. Yes I feel like its the little intricacies that end up catching us off guard. The larger things, of course we think to talk about and discuss.! I will update on our trip. I'm hoping it ends up being a great time, I am thankful she and I are also good friends so I...

And after writing that I realize I am being childish.. Because I'm not crediting him for all the improvements that have happened. How much more attentive he has been at times than he ever has been.

So, Normally my Husband and I dont do a lot for valentines, but we generally try to do something small at least. (Flowers, spend time together, ect). Now we are heading out this week (Friday) to meet our friends out of state (His online GF). So yesterday we were in the store, and keep in mind...

Ive tried that, and My photo has been flagged, although I'm sure it was also because I was having issues with my account, so OK Cupid probably saw my photo directly. I will try something again. I haven't had issues with men contacting me at all even without a photo, although I'm sure a photo...

This has been my biggest drawback. You are required to have a photo, or they keep sending you messages. My biggest concern is my ex, or someone he knows coming across my profile. He does not have a huge network, so I wonder for anyone who was concerned about privacy, have you actually had any...

You have a wonderful way of putting things Gala.. I may read and re-read this a few times. Thank you for the thoughtful input and advice :)

Magdlyn, Tbf, I didnt get into a lot of detail because my post was so long. He has made strides in how he connects with me, when this all began. He has not done nearly the same amount of research and reading I have, but he has done some. We are meeting up with a group this weekend which is...

Gala, you make some great points and I appreciate that. I think my urgency to get past it, is because of his frustrations and me not being past it yet. I "ruining" the fun for him. No this isn't anything he has specifically said, but he has said that sometimes he wants to just back out because...

It is :)

We are very good about communicating, in fact since we went on this path we have become more and more aware of how each other is feeling, and able to feel much more empathy towards each other. Our conversations often revolve around Poly and different things that do come up. With that said, he...

I realize there are plenty of books and articles on this, but I dont think its a substitute for RL feedback. With that said, a little background; Husband and I about 4 years ago decided to "open" our relationship up. At the time we had no idea what this meant, Not even sure if we had heard of...

lease centro KTD.. You are very very close to where I am, Sterling heights. Thanks everyone.

Hi, I'm new :) So difficult to just introduce myself. I'm from the Detroit Metro area of Michigan. I am married 6 years now to a wonderful man. We have children together, who are amazing, and challenging at times :) We have been looking into Polyamory for ourselves for a while now, and would...