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Yes and no. It depends on their attachment styles. People like me have an anxious attachment style where they want a ton of closeness for fear of abandonment. Others have an avoidant attachment style where they avoid intimacy due to the anxiety of losing someone. I suggest you learn more about...

Whether you want your ex back or not is an entirely different discussion. This post was just sharing how to get your ex back.

You need to change your belief patterns. Love is not supposed to hurt. It's supposed to serve your best interests as well as your partner's or partners'. If your partner doesn't care for your well-being, the relationship is not built on love.

Same, I wondered that too. I asked "If polygamy was a sin, what about people like David and Solomon? They had multiple wives." Christians said "well Deut. 17:17 says it wasn't recommended." I thought "What about Abraham, Lot, and Jacob? They weren't kings, but had multiple wives. This verse...

No, manipulation would be me purposefully ignoring messages to show my displeasure. If your ex breaks up with you and doesn't want to contact you, it's because he/she needs time to heal. Your ex invested alot of energy and emotions in the relationship so he/she needs to find his/her identity...

My last ex was extremely anxious and jealous. Things started off well. She told me she had trust issues. I worked hard to gain her trust. I liked her sense of humor, the way she talked, etc. She was sexy and beautiful. We flirted and had a great time. She pressured me to get in a relationship...

I can give several. I met a beautiful Filipina single mom through a Facebook group. We talked for quite a while then decided to get in a relationship. She suspected me of being honest and liked my curiosity. She often talked about work and family problems. She said she wanted to live in her...

The best way to get your ex back is to not talk to them after the break up. Begging them to come back, writing letters, texting, calling, etc. only push your ex away because you're not respecting boundaries. When you're completely silent, women get anxious and wonder "does he still love me? Is...

To survive a relationship, you need to control your anxiety. When you get anxious, you start doing things that destroy the relationship. When i get anxious for example, i get paranoid. I'm afraid my partner is cheating, lying, or in an accident. I tend to have outbursts and interrogate. I listen...

I realized anxiety is the best explanation for why most relationships end. People give reasons good or bad for why relationships end, but they're not convincing. They don't explain everything on why partners were acting the way they were. People acting out past family traumas and their fear of...

Right, that's why so many relationships end. That's why my last relationship ended. My partner was extremely anxious and controlling. She constantly expected me to call her instead of my friends, suspected me of cheating, accused me of things I didn't do, etc. It was a nightmare. In her quest to...

When you're in a relationship, you gotta control your anxiety and not try to control your partner out of jealousy. When i was still with my ex, she talked to another guy who was her best friend. I got really anxious and paranoid she was gonna cheat. I never asked her to stop talking to other...

The vast majority are the result from childhood trauma. Here's a couple of facts. 35 million children experienced child abuse. That's half of America. 80% of families are dysfunctional. Around 50% of marriages end in divorce. Lack of communication is one of the reasons why relationships end...

We were in the courtship phase. Just because you list reasons for rejecting someone, doesn't mean you don't have dysfunctional relationship patterns. Sometimes, those reasons can be excuses in disguise to avoid intimacy. For example, I courted a woman with a tendency to avoid intimacy. We...

This is what I'm talking about. You and her seem to have the same type of personality. How do you know I'm gonna argue over rejection? Because you're projecting your unmet needs and childhood trauma onto people. Closeness is dangerous for you. When things get too emotional, you tend to avoid...

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Childhood is the biggest influence on what kind of partners we pick. Scientists researched something called attachment theory and found how parents treat their children will determine what kind of relationships they'll have. If their parents were dysfunctional, children will tend to pick...

To understand why your partner is avoiding you, think about what happened in their childhood and the last conversations you had. That should tell you everything. Long ago, I tried to court 1 girl. She told me about her traumatic childhood and how her family issues still hurt her. In our last...

Right, sexist men claim women are choosy and not as interested in sex as much as men. Scientists ran tests which showed this is not true. Women want sex as much as men do. People conducted surveys where female volunteers agreed to give honest answers on sex in exchange for anonymity. The results...

I think how people handle jealousy is also just as important. It's not like you're either jealous or you're not and there's nothing that can be done about it. Jealous people need to see their value in relationships and express jealousy in healthy manners. Once they do that, they can get rid of...