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I didn't mean to come off as PA, and no I'm not proposing otherwise. I'm just trying to understand things. What I meant to convey is that there seem to be many definitions/explanations for the same concepts. I'm not assigning those differing definitions/explanations value. I'll try to explain...

All good things. Dean and I had a great anniversary, yummy food, yummy drink, nice walk, fantastic open conversation. I'm a lucky girl. My counselor was very professional, it is so nice to have someone looking out for me. She knows all the things, has all this knowledge to draw from. She had...

That first thread had so much in it. That plus answers here actually have me more confused. It appears both concepts are met with strong individual opinions. Some of the responses make couples privilege sound like a dirt word and are entirely flippant about RA. Dean and I are trying to figure...

Something pretty fun happened around here last night. Dean told me that while I was out with Blue Monday he popped onto his online dating site and reactivated it just to see what's out there. So I hopped on the laptop and updated my profile. We linked our accounts and both looked around...

I've come across some things that I am either confused about or just plainly need more information about. I was hoping you could help point me in the right direction: Monogamous Conditioning Couples Privilege Relationship Anarchy

Today is the first day of moving onward. I wasn't sure what that was going to look like. I know I'll carry the sadness of not being able to have a relationship with Blue for bit, but I'm devising a plan. I'm going to see what kind of friendship I can have with Blue that doesn't leave me open...

I have some thought about the article, not sure if it's ok to derail this thread though. I still don't quite understand couples privilege. Another thing I was thinking about though specific to the OP is how easy it would be to feel ganged up on if your partners were speaking critically of...

My husband just came back from the store with Menage a Trois brand red wine and I love him more for it. He's often quite silly and he's trying to cheer me up.

I'm new to this concept, I am very interested in being schooled on the subject.

Very exciting. I hope it goes really well. Tell us everything. Also I think I'm gonna start referring to my husband and my nesting partner because that sounds adorable.

I also agree with Marcus and Breath. I have zero experience with this in any real way, but if I were in a triad I would assume that the "couples privilege" of what one know the other knows would apply to all three partners...a triad privilege. I know I've use that privilege and I assume that...

This is similar to what I was thinking. They already want a triad. They're feeling you out or something.

Great question, when I was typing that I was asking myself "what do I even mean?" I actually don't know what to do with my feelings so I can remain friends with Blue. Compartmentalize sounds right to me. Like I can treat him like I would a friend, but it takes putting my loving feelings in a...

Subtle signs? What did I miss, other than the time he said flat out that poly wouldn't work for him. I mean that was just there and I chose to continue talking/seeing him. Maybe THAT was my mistake. I told you I'd make more than one :p I did need to tell him straight what I wanted though to...

I spoke to Blue Eyes yesterday, cleared up some things. So today I know we understand one another. I had to go pick up an earring of mine from him today. Ok, I didn't have to do it today. Ok, I could've had him leave it on the porch or something, but I didn't. I spent about 20 minutes there...

I wouldn't trade what happened for the world. I would've preferred a different outcome, but wow if I hadn't met Blue Eyes and had the feelings who knows how much longer it would've taken to come to my recent realization. and now I know where he stands and now I know so much more about my...

You're the sweetest and yes, so much this. Love is important.

I have read about the escalator and you're right, who knows what kind of exposure to polyamory he's had if any. I logically understand it al. I do. On another planet I have been just getting loved on by Dean and SoulSister today. Like, they're both helping me heal from heartache and I think...

Thank you. It's invaluable to have a place like this I can find commiseration. Hugs to you.

I came out to my interest and was rejected. It sucks. I was so vulnerable and my heart is broken. This is my first attempt so it's particularly painful. I feel yuck. He is the first interest I've proposed it to, "came out" to. He was good and he cares and it was all fine, but it hurts. It's...