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Hi Britt, Welcome to the forums. You have posted into the blogs section of the forum where people rarely give advice. You may have more luck if you post into the poly relationships corner of the forum. When you post, you may have to give us more of a background. Useful information would...

Hi Ken, I'm relatively new here myself and I can see why you feel you're being run out. Truth is, people practice non monogamy differently. None of us are counsellors and we all react to things by bringing our own emotional baggage from the past with us. What works for us may not work for you...

Hi Alba, I'm glad things are finally working out for you. Welcome to the forums, Shaya

Hey Medic, Congrats on being propositioned and on having what sounds to be a pretty healthy polyamory after 4 years. I love hearing that your metamour is supportive of you. The poster Kevin above has a similar setup. Kevin's female partner has a husband, with Kevin and his metamour referring...

Hi Herman I think being able to do polyamory healthily requires a great sense of self worth or self love. I don't mean to be rude but from some of what you've written, I do wonder at your self esteem and you may want to see if you can work on that before polyamory. I mention this only because...

The answer to this one is surprisingly few if you mean all 3 that started polyamory together, all coming from monogamy. There's a thread for that. If you find another, will you pop it onto that thread? Thanks.

Not having ever read the bible, does it depict rape or have any direct comments about it? Or underage sex? Or incest? Or <insert any other frowned-upon sex act> other than bestiality? Actually, more interested in killing and rape at the moment, as a continuation of my earlier comment.

Welcome to the forums! :) You sound well established. Look forward to hearing more about your situation and your advice on the forums. -Shaya

In the end, I guess it still strikes me as odd that we impose harsher penalties for humans when considering killing vs rape, but the reverse when it comes to animals.

No apology needed DeepBlue. :) You have enough going on in your life to have to worry about stuff like this. I just wanted the thread to remain useful for newcomers in the future. Thanks for your input.

Hi Deepblue, Sorry to hear about the poor score. Looks like both yours and my relationship could do with improvement in some areas. I was wondering if you'd consider asking a mod to create a new thread for the issues you've raised. In particular, I was wondering if you would ask them to take...

I'm too inexperienced to know the answer to that.

Hey LolaHaze, I'm not a fan of veto, but it may work for couples who have trust and abandonment issues in the relationship, or for couples who 'just want to have fun' rather than the emotional poly aspect. You may find the resources you want over in affair recovery websites. Best wishes, Shaya.

Mags has it right. Also, things got better for me when my wife and I accepted that falling in love and growing in love were 2 different emotions. Not everyone believes that, but I do. I find thinking of it like this helps with security and jealousy. The 14 years you have generates a love that...

You're welcome. Glad you found them useful.

Thanks Orlandobif! I find your question very interesting. Although the topic of the thread may not look related, I found many of the replies here to touch on the same topic you're asking. You may find something interesting there.

Hey Chain, This sounds like an awful time for you. For what it's worth, I think you and your wife did all the preparation you could have done. Poly is just like that sometimes despite all the emotional planning we do. You did good to move into poly slowly. I was uncertain if you and (more...

Hi MLER, Welcome to the forums. I'm relatively new myself but have found this website to be very authentic in their stories. Most of what I read elsewhere on the internet tend to be more one-sided about poly, especially the media articles. Ugh. If you and your partner are totally new to non...

Many people use DH to mean Dear Husband. :)

Hi there, Welcome to the forums. I thought I'd just share a few links here to see if you may find them useful. Relationships vulnerability quiz. Repair after a fight. Monogamous couples transitioning to poly. An intellectual discussion of jealousy. Falling in love vs growing in love. They're...