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"Do we invite anyone we connect with over to the house during the kids waking hours? Even if we just met the person or they are expressly there for sex (and some socialization of course)?" I don't do ONS or the like. Tried it a couple times and realized it's not for me. I personally wouldn't...

I haven't responded because I've had out of town company. In this case, the OP made it clear he requested to open the relationship which makes it different, imo than if he was opening at his wife's request. I'm more like his wife, casual hook ups don't work for me. When you open, that's a risk...

I would defer to the parent's decision. The kids home should be a safe space. They've already had to adjust to having new adults move in, no need to force more changes/upheaval on them until they've had time to adjust to the new living arrangements. I also would be very hesitant to have casual...

You are lovable, and beautiful, and PunkRock is crazy for throwing away your relationship. I think your friend is right. You do so much for so many people... and for so many kitties. You are a beautiful soul. I'm glad you're doing something for yourself and that you and DarkKnight are taking...

I am so so sorry, Bluebird. Punkrock sounds very out of control. Prayers for healing and peace and some relief for you and your family. ((Hugs))

My point wasn't that she should be free to do whatever she wants. My point was that the OP should ask for what he wants, not just make arbitrary rules thinking the rules will protect her from going crazy with NRE again. Imo, rules just don't work... they're breeding ground for resentments...

If your wife is wanting poly relationships, she is unlikely to be happy with this restriction and it's likely to cause resentments on her side. The thing is limiting her physical time with the new partner/s will not prevent you from feeling pushed aside or disregarded. If she can't physically be...

Holding him, loving him, and just being there for DarkKnight was what a loving partner does, BB. To be honest, I think that's the best thing we can do as partners. It's been a really rough time for you and your family. I hope things lessen up. I am so sorry.

That looks really yummy, Kevin! My DS, Ruby, and his bf love novelty wines. Is it worth buying for their next visit?

Like Vicki, I am polysaturated at two relationships. For me it's both the time and the emotional energy that limits me. When I'm polysaturated, I may still flirt but I hold the person at arms length.... meaning I don't engage in frequent contact or make plans with them. Instead, I pour that...

That sounds very difficult and painful. I'm sorry that you're suffering. Have you considered just taking a temporary hiatus from T (and your brother)? Like go no contact with either for 60 days to give yourself a break and time to work on letting her go? At the end of the break, have very...

I hope your anxiety is better today, Kevin. Anxiety really sucks! Did you get to try out the Bailey's?

Thank you for the info on the FIV kitty. I considered adopting an FIV + kitty before but didn't know enough about them. We had a kitten with feline leukemia at one time. She was so sick it was heartbreaking. This sounds so much more doable! I will check into it. There are a few FIV + kitties up...

Lol on the group retching! Just out of curiosity, what do you do with the FIV cats? DO you keep them segregated from your other cats? I would like to foster some of these cats but don't want to put mine at risk and wasn't sure how to accomplish that?

My experience is that the mono women I've met and the mono women Blue keeps choosing, tend to either think they can handle a poly partner as a short term partner, or they can convert the poly person to monogamy with their awesomeness. Either works for awhile but not so well long term. My...

Honestly, there's really nothing for you to do aside from support your gf. Its her place to ask for advice if she needs it. That said, it kind of sounds like Bree is tired of the couple's privilege you and your gf have. Which is totally understandable. I know she agreed to a secondary role...

I'm sorry about your friend, Bluebird. You have had a lot on your plate! I would also think having Punkrock date for the first time might be contributing to your emotional response. You haven't experienced him as a hinge yet, you're still feeling shaky because of his relapse, it makes sense all...

I think it depends on the metamore and how well we click.... and on the hinge. I really wanted to be KTP in the beginning. That worked with exactly two metamores, lol. Now, with Blue, I prefer parallel poly. He has no desire to meet anyone I date so it works for us. I'd be careful with...

And it's totally ok if this isn't a good week for you emotionally. You can meet another time if you want.

This is one of those things where I think it depends on the people. Some people find it easier to meet metamores because reality is frequently less scary than our imaginations. Others have no desire to meet. It's all a matter of personal preference. I use to prefer to meet metamores. Now I...