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We cohabit on a part time basis. My partner's lover Wolf comes over for the weekend or several days regularly and we spend what we call "family days" together doing stuff like cooking, jobs, household chores, playing games, watching movies or just chilling together.

Really good evening, Dinner then a local concert followed by a wine or two in front of the fire. All brilliant. Then about midnight, I excused myself and went up to bed leaving Angel and Wolf alone to canoodle and eventually go to bed together.They are downstairs in the guest room, I am...

I suspect the frequency is not really the issue, but there are deeper issues that need to be resolved. I think that sometimes little rules are a way of hiding deeper "control" or loss of control issues.

Thanks, and yes possibly, hearing is not always the greatest thing! This is strange as I have seen then making love more than once and that is not a problem, but hearing the sounds without the "pictures" can make your imagination go into overdrive.

Yes all the time, and she has been brilliant. Supportive and caring which is why her nickname is Angel! Even so now and again you get little niggles. I would not say I was 99% happy with her being polyamorous but rather I am 100% happy with it, just for 99% of the time.

I have refused to set boundaries or make rules or constrain Angel in anyway. She has done most if not all of our special things (mainly things we have learned together over the years) with Wolf. So I do get a few wobbles about sex with Angel still being special for me/us and still being as...

Well back home and it went far better than I could have hoped for. You discover in this world of Polyamory that you have to be flexible. We have booked a cottage/condo at a beach resort for 3 people and it had two bedrooms and we assumed it would have two twin rooms, but it actually had one...

Boots and Feisty Liberated Women. Preferably together.

Ok, here goes. We go away tomorrow for 5 days to a holiday cottage on the coast in an adjacent country. Its quite clear that Angel is looking forward to a *lot* of intimate time with Wolf, but being the lovely considerate person she is, is also quite aware of the dynamics and needs. We are all...

I think there is a big difference between what I will/should tell or explain to close friends compared to acquaintances.

I hate that this is so common amongst men. It's so sexist. I also find that some people (of both sexes) who find out you are in a MFM V assume the men must also be bi.

After embracing polyamory we have decided, given our current relationship, to come out to several people, mainly to avoid lying and to avoid other people being hurt if/when they found out. We don't feel the need to tell the world, nor see any reason to discuss our domestic or sexual...

Life certainly doesn't end at 50. We have entered into our first truly polyamorous ethical V relationship in our mid 50s, and it's a wonderful thing. We both are very energised and feel we have started a new and exciting chapter in our lives.

Really sorry for how you are feeling, I know its difficult but it can get better. We all experience jealousy sometimes. You may find it helps to try and understand your jealous feelings and why you are feeling the way you are and then with you partner try and address the underlying feelings...

I suffer from GAD generalised anxiety disorder which means I can become anxious sometimes severely for no apparent reason. Its a chronic condition that I have to live with. I have learned a whole host of coping techniques which include relaxation techniques, thought redirection techniques and...

To me the agreement part is crucial. The times I have struggled with jealousy or upset have been either because and agreement was broken or misunderstood. Open and honest communication about needs, expectations, boundaries is really important, if you cannot get that between yourselves then you...

In a couple of weeks we are going on our first 5 day holiday that is me, my wife (Angel) her OSO (Wolf) and his dog! We have/they have stayed over at each others houses and spent weekends together but that is usually just one night and occasionally two but is typically twice a week. This...

Last sunday was the sunday of Valentines weekend. And my wife was going out for romantic valentines lunch and afternoon with her lover. At 11.30 I was kneeling down in the bedroom fastening her stockings to her suspender(garter belt) because she was was struggling to do it as she was too clumsy...

I certainly dont like the idea if lying to or misleading family and friends and we are starting to deal with this, within the bounds of a fairly conservative outlook of some of our family and friends. I think perhaps after a lot of thought, in big social occasions its also a degree of jealousy...

Don't worry about the terminology or getting the words wrong or implied criticism because you can't always explain how you feel. After years in a mono world its often hard to find the right words. Don't be hard on yourself. We have this week "come out" to our immediate family and I realised...