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Hey everyone! I have been feeling really awesome lately and just wanted to share. I had a lot of anxiety about experiencing/having to work through jealousy if having to see either of my partners being intimate with other women... this came partially from a friend of mine not taking my poly...

Was working my way backwards through the posts but wish I had seen this earlier! Thanks for the insight: "Would you be as comfortable if Joe had a wife having that much input in your relationship?" NO! I definitely wouldn't. We all started hanging out around the same time (~3 mo window), so I...

The disentanglement article really helpful! Joe and I have been the main confidant in each others lives for awhile now, and I think some of the issues we have had are codependent traits that the new poly dynamic has been blamed for. He has made comments that he doesn't really care that John and...

As far as "telling" Joe, John told him about E starting this rumor, not about it not being true so I wouldn't have to recount it since it upset me and made me feel gross and embarrassed... I said I appreciated that Joe "believed" me because after having that interaction with E I didn't feel like...

Yes I'm safe! Just to address that. I have never felt unsafe around either of these men, and anything traumatic happened to me before meeting them. Joe and I never planned on getting legally married, but had been engaged for a couple years before getting married this year. We officially got...

Thanks for the kind words :) I'm not sure if it's time to talk about John and I having sex just yet... I honestly don't think I'm ready, or maybe Joe not being ready also makes me not ready? More of a "me" reason for not being ready would definitely be past trauma; I still have PTSD episodes and...

Thanks for the tips :) yeah I was a lil down in the dumps; I think I was just really kicking myself for disappointing Joe like this. I also learned my lesson and definitely don't plan on confiding in anyone about my relationship with John any time soon, especially while we're all figuring things...

Hello everyone! I've posted a couple times on here so I'll try to keep the context of my situation brief. I'm in a relatively new poly relationship (less than a year), and as my husband is still getting used to the idea of me loving another man (we'll call my husband Joe and this other man...

YES it is hard to define lmao I have had some angst about it. Yeah actually intercourse is how I would define it; P and I do make out frequently and Jo is aware of this. I try not to talk about it with Jo too much, he knows it happens and sees P and I cuddling but we don't get into specifics...

He doesn't currently but he definitely could if he wanted to. To clarify, when I said "P and I" it's literally just sex between the two of us isn't happening, but P and Jo are free to do whatever, they just haven't yet.

Hey everyone! I posted on here a while ago asking for advice on loving two men at one time (Jo (my husband, we recently got married! :)) and our friend P). I was given advice to chill out essentially and let them work through their feelings on their own (thanks @GalaGirl) and things have been...

No, Joe and I are also LDR but we talk pretty frequently and he visits when he can. Since I posted this I talked to Joe and John about where a lot of my anxiety is coming from.. I originally focused a lot on Joe's feelings as reasons why I would be worried, but if he says everything is okay then...

That's a really good point; Joe and I have been in an LDR on and off since we started dating so for us it's a non issue (really just an annoyance at this point), but involving John has changed things. I definitely share your thoughts on the order of importance as far as the future; we are all...

As silly as this sounds, I think their version of "figuring things out" would be to, like, wrestle? And not even in a bad way, boys can just be dumb lol. I can see how me trying*** to make things better for them isn't really going to work. I just want to enter this with no one feeling like any...

Thanks for the reply! I'm SO fine without hooking up with both of them at the same time. Really just mentioned it as an example of all of us trying to figure out how our dynamic has changed because of this and it actually hasn't much which is cool. I enjoyed just being around them as friends...

Hello everyone! Someone helped me out on my last post by giving names to the people I mention, so I'll use those. We'll say my partner's name is Joe and our friend's name is John. I posted on here awhile ago about my situation, but briefly Joe and I have been together for 2+ years and around...

Hey Kevin! It's been awhile but yeah I definitely was looking for a hint of what to expect in this situation. It feels very weird to be embarking on this relationship that I've never seen an example of in my life, but it also feels really right? We've all been freely talking about this over the...

THANK YOU for acknowledging some of the weirdness that I'm feeling because we all met at the same time... we're all feeling 'at sea' currently and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that we're all equals in this. Cutting John out is the last thing Joe or I want to do, but I do agree...

Agh this is a lot of really great stuff! Thanks so much :) yes I definitely have a ton of issues with anxiety. While they are both trustworthy people, I do think they have some maturing to do in the emotional intelligence department, and I think their lack of communication is leaving space...

Yeah I think I'm also coming to a similar conclusion; time will tell I suppose. I also think it's interesting how both of you have mentioned this other man as "my boyfriend's best friend" multiple times, however he is also my best friend. As a result, I'm having to maneuver hanging out alone...