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I don't know what I am on here asking for. I think mainly I am on here venting. Talking myself into a difficult decision I already know I have to make. While I may eventually be okay with poly, I don't know if I can be okay with a wife that emotionally blackmails me, or does what she wants and...

I don't know. It gets very complicated because of the kids.

My apologies that it has been so long to get back on here. I have not been motivated enough. So much stuff going on, same story. I have been going to counseling and learning more about myself and I have grown quite a lot. But the situation is still a mess. During the Bfs stay three months ago I...

Been a long while since I have said anything on here. Things have gotten way worse. Have not really felt like talking about any of it. She already tears me down for talking on here about this at all and thinks you all are out to get her. I say it is not like that and even offered to let her read...

Last night had a major meltdown and panic attack. I really don't like having PTSD. Wife held me and helped me through it, even when I was not so pleasant. I believe strongly that there is still love from her. If you have never been through what a person with ptsd can dish out when they are...

The last couple days have been difficult. Had a bit of an argument that escalated into a big one two nights ago. Neither of us acted well. I did try to stay calm and stop it a few times but she kept going and then I would respond. It was not a good time. Then last night I broke a bit. I have...

Thank you everyone. She seems to want to do everything she can to help me for the last couple days. The last couple days have been good but I still worry. How much slower can this go? She has already slept with him.

I think it may be okay for him to meet the kids. He will not be here that long for them to get that attached. It will be little visits every time and spaced out over months. And he seems a good person and very eager to do his best to make this all work which is good. I am going to suggest the...

I am still thinking I would prefer them in a hotel. Does that seem weird? I don't think I am ready to be sleeping in the same house with her in another room just yet

This is very important to know, thank you both. I know she is not going to like hearing it but knowing that it is recommended by states and actual people that have gone through this may help. And you are right, Magdlyn, my home is my sanctuary. This guy was already forced into my life without my...

That was very informative and helpful, especially about the kids. They are very young and would probably get attached. She would actually be spending birthday with us and the following weekend with him. But yes I would prefer him in a hotel. And you are right, it is way too soon to be planning...

So she is home now and we had a good time just talking, which we have not done in a while. Things were going great until she mentioned the boyfriend coming to visit during her birthday. I was okay with that. She also wanted him to stay in our house and not have to get a hotel. I was a little...

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Thank you very much for your input. I am indeed open to any perspectives. I am not getting frequent input from him, but it has been enough so far. And I believe that it would be better to know him and at least be on decent civil terms because he is a person and she has chosen to allow him into...

I have grown exponentially through all of this I am kind of shocked. And with their support it helps greatly. Maybe the NRE is running off. I don't know. She did just send a message to me about how she thought about how I said I was feeling and made a choice based upon that. It is great. And I...

This is what I sent them this morning. It was received quite well and everyone seems do be doing a lot better. Especially me. I have gotten some of my insecurities under control. Even made myself a list of things I do value in myself and what she does love about me that contradicts some of the...

I think you are doing fantastic work. I have PTSD and have recently had to adjust my entire life to support my wife who recently discovered she is poly. Needless to say, it has a bit of an impact, but I am trying to push past it. You are a great person for bringing awareness. Mental issues are...

It would be nice for a breather. The worst thing I imagined and was not ready for has happened so once I get healed up from that, and see that she holds true to what she says, that I will still get the love and attention I need and not be neglected, I will get better. Other than ignoring me and...

Sometimes well, sometimes I feel I am going to snap. I will get upset when telling my feelings and overreact a bit and be a little hurtful. I am working on that. I seriously need to. I mean she says sorry and I love you and I hammer the hurt in again. That is unhealthy and definitely needs to...

I actually do have a question. how easy is it to reconnect with a partner after they have spent time away with another? I want to be loving but I know me, I get very jealous and will be thinking of how she just came from him and wondering if she will think the way he kissed and held her is...