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It's difficult to assess a situation with just one side of the story, but on the surface, I get the feeling that your relationship with your wife was having problems even before opening the relationship. I find this to be very common. Many couples having trouble in their relationship tend to...

Yes indeed. It is exponentially harder than being monogamous and finding a solid relationship (my first marriage ended after 19 years). People change over time and that can not be stopped. Sometimes we grow to be incompatible. So, maybe finding a triad that only lasts through NRE is good...

Wow. I am sorry you are going through this. Sending virtual hugs and love. My take is there are two innocent lives all caught up in this, your 10 yo and the new baby. Whatever issues you three adults are going through, those two children need to come first. They did not ask for this. Also...

No disillusions here. We know it is a rare thing. And yes, there always does seem to be an odd person out. (A discussion for another thread, perhaps). Yes, I see it too, now. He was blinded by love. I suppose I was too. Because of my love for him and wanting to see him have a good...

No. Sorry for the confusion. The one we dated together was just an example of another relationship we had together. I never dated Lucy; only my husband had dated her.

I want to follow up on a previous post from two years ago, but have been struggling with the time to do it. It’s funny how being semi-retired I have less time to myself than I did when I was working full time. Here is the original post: Why does it always have to be at my house? The short of...

The story as you stated it does come off a bit self-serving of Alan, and as the previous poster stated, you feel what you feel and there is no wrong in that. But at the same time, it is not easy for someone to open up like that. If there was no mention of your work that evening and he asked...

Yes! I guess I did, lol. The joys of aging :). And yes. Things came to a head, and that relationship ended. I will have to see if I can write a follow up on that thread.

Hi. I joined some time ago, but only just now getting around to setting up my profile. From my profile bio: I am a sapiosexual and easily engaged by intellect, wit, and a good sense of humor. There are many forms of intellect, and just because someone is not book smart does not mean they...

Lol. I believe you are spot on. I was allowing it. I hold a lot of power in this relationship. My husband will bend over backwards for me. At the same time I have no desire for that power, and sure as hell don't want to abuse it. I want to be reasonable about my requests. Sometimes I tend to...

Thanks all for the help and advice. It's nice to have a sounding board that is not too close to the situation. It sounds like we are on the right course, but still have more work to do. And yes, I know I have some things to work on, as well. I believe in 'mi casa su casa.' So I am reasonably...

It used to be two to three times a week, on average. Since we talked it is once, sometimes twice. So it is much better, though it is still something I struggle with. Is it wrong for me to limit the amount of times his other partners stays over? Shouldn't it be his choice on how much time he...

I would be bored as hell, for sure, never going out. I don't know how they do it. I prefer to be out and about with my partners. I want to show them off to everyone. But hey, to each their own, I suppose. Though in fairness, my home is not that boring of a place. We are "lifestylers" and have a...

Thanks. As stated, I do already arrange to stay other places when they are together, which kind of makes getting another space redundant. But your solution does answer my question in a roundabout way. It is not normal to feel unwelcome in my own home, and therefore, I should seek a space that is...

My husband and I are polyamorous. We have both been poly since we met almost ten years ago. We are open and can date others, as long as we do so within our established rules. Sometimes we date people together. Those are probably the most fulfilling, but are also much more complex, in my...

Thanks all for your responses. This is a pretty cool place. I am already finding it helpful.

Hi, I hope I am posting this in the right place. Some of the posts looked more like a dating site so I am not sure. To be clear, I am not looking to find a date or anyone at this time. I have been poly for some time; turns out all my life, but only active in it for the last decade when my...