Poly and Loving it.

abigail

abigail

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Hi,

I hope I am posting this in the right place. Some of the posts looked more like a dating site so I am not sure. To be clear, I am not looking to find a date or anyone at this time.

I have been poly for some time; turns out all my life, but only active in it for the last decade when my monogamous relationship ended. I am re-married. My husband and I are both poly and that was the terms of our arrangement from the start. We have both engaged with many partners since we were together and continue to do so. Some relationships have ended and most of our exes are still very good friends of ours. In fact, I married my husband because I saw the loving relationship he still has with his ex-wife (whom he has children with). That's the man I wanted and I scooped him right up.

I am sapiosexual, meaning I value how the brain works most of all. When I do I date based on if I am intellectually stimulated by you. All other demographics are meaningless. Well, I also am not a fan of drama. Sure, at my age we all have baggage, but I gravitate to those that know how to leave their baggage at home.

We currently have quite the polycule. I need to map it out just to see it. A future fun project. I joined this community because sometimes things get difficult and I don't know if my expectations are exceeded, missed or on point. I am hoping to see how others engage in their poly. Maybe it will help me understand mine better. I shall see.

I expect to be posting more in the near future and I look forward to getting to know some of you.

I hope I provided the correct content for this forum. If not, I am sure someone will let me know.

Abigail
 
You are in the right place. This is not a dating site, per se. Some people do come here looking to post a personal ad, but we are mainly here to share experiences, information, support and advice, and to be around people who get us. We also offer a blogging section if you don't want much advice but just want to write about your poly life.

So, welcome!
 
Welcome, Abigail! You did indeed provide the "correct content". Some of the posts in the "introductions" section do look like dating site ads, but that's just people introducing themselves. There is a separate part of the forum for personal ads, but it is really there just so people have somewhere to go if that's all they're seeking. I don't know if anyone has ever found true love or even friendship from that part of the forum, but here on the main part of the forum, where the purpose is social/discussion, people actually *have* found IRL friends and partners (waving to Mags).

Don't be afraid to use NSFW words and/or talk about sex without using *&%&$# (if that's how you roll) because we are all adults here!
 
Greetings abigail,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You are posting in the right place. We have a separate subforum for dating posts, divided into boards by region/continent. And really, Polyamory.com isn't a dating site, it is more of a discussion site, although if any two members develop feelings for each other, that's fine.

If you're interested, you can read about how I engage in my poly in my blog; if you have any questions for me let me know. It's great to have you with us!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
Outstanding! I'm glad it's helpful so far.
 
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