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Thanks a lot for all the advice; it really helps. I need boundaries, this is certain but it's not an easy thing to build. The difficult thing is that my partner doesn't seem to understand that she takes me for granted: she never has the same care for as she has for her friends. At the same...

This is a good question. I am currently working as much as I can on my codependency to give her a non-conditional freedom. I have already changed a bit since I started the work 8 weeks ago: - I no longer seek her attention or blame her (via message or calls) when she goes out with friends or...

If only it was that easy :-). I love this country, and love what I have; In addition, my wife is also happu here and she finally found what she wants to do so it would be mean stopping her here.

It means that I can stay in the country as long as I have a job. My wife can stay in the country as long as I have a job (unless she finds a job but it's almost impossible). If I break up with her, she might be kicked out of the country and it's not something that I want as I believe it's a bit...

The situation is really complicated and it's driving me crazy: I live in Singapore where apartments are small and space limited; the opportunity we had with the friend offering the apartment will unfortunately not happen again. The problem is that the apartment is small and 2 people cannot live...

Yeah, I fear that you are right and that at least currently, she is not a good person. It's just impossible for me to consider since I know that she is not always like that. She has been very good but things have apparently changed. I just don't know if I should keep on investing effort or not...

I also believe it yes; and even if he is not I am afraid that he is not a good person. What scares me a lot is that despite these 3 very negative signals (in only 4 months), she is still running after him. If he wants to be with her, she is very likely to start the same cycle of destruction over...

Sorry if it was unclear. It's the same guy yes (there has always been only one). You said she's mentally weak. What does that mean? When I say my wife is emntally weak it's that she has suffered from light depression for a a couple of years with a lack of motivation to do anything and also...

Hi everyone, I have recently shared that my wife and I have just started being an open couple. She has been with a metamour for 4 months now and I have always had deep doubts regarding the real personality of this person. I would need your opinion based on the following facts: 1) When I...

Excellent advise, thanks a lot. The fights are mostly due to me being jealous of her spending time with this other guy. There is improvement as we actually discuss about it less and less, and I also realize that I can handle my emotions better when she mentions him. So the time spent...

Hello and thanks for your answer; There is a lof of true things in what you mentioned, especially regarding her answer to this toxic situation and her right to move toward something better for her. I accept it. I am working hard on myself currently, really trying everything I can to grow my own...

Thanks for the message and it totally agree with the content. Instead of judgmental, I should have said maybe to prevent from judging too quickly a complex situation. This is very common on the Web. But I am not hear to just hear what I want, certainly not.

Hi, I am not sure I understand what such therapy is? I am currently being followed by a therapist and an hypnotherapist to understand how I work and why. I did understand a massive amount of things!

Hi everyone, I have just introduced myself under the corresponding section, so take a look at it to understand me better. As I mentioned there, I have been married to my wife for 15 years and we have been in a very codependent relation with me being manipulative, possessive and jealous. I...

Hi everyone, I feel a bit lost so excuse me if my introduction is not the most understandable one. I am a married man that has been with his wife for 15 years. We have been in a very codependent relation for at least 5 years with me being totally fused to her (and consequently no identity)...