ThrottleTherapy
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I got married a little over 3yrs ago to a woman that I have been with for about 8 yrs. We have on young child. We have a monogamous relationship. I absolutely adore my wife. We have great communication. Our sex life is pretty good. I am just more sexual in general than she is. She has been exploring her sexuality and growing through our time together. I've let her know that I'd be very interested in some sort of an open relationship. I've never been in open relationships, so I didn't know what kind of parameters to talk to my now wife. She has never had much interest in the idea and ultimately we've kept our relationship monogamous.
I'll be referring to my wife as D from here out.
The first love of my life is a wonderful woman that I had met shortly after we got out of highschool. We ended up going to college together. We we had a great 3yrs together. I, at the end, had overloaded myself between work and school. I had a breakdown one day and packed my clothes and left. This was 11yrs ago. I will refer to this person as DD from here out.
I spent a year or two discovering myself. Learning to deal with stress and where my limits are, ect... I'd been upset with myself for doing that to DD ever since. I'd lost contact with DD shortly after I walked. D has known that DD was a special person in my life that I loved and felt bad for leaving in that manner, let alone at all. I'd learned through friends that DD had gotten married 9yrs ago and moved out of country. Then I realized I'll never get a chance to apologize. It was hard to get past. I, over time, came to peace knowing that I'm not the person I was in the past. Knowing I'm more self aware.
About 3weeks ago, DD contacts me. Tells me she's back in the states, and in fact in the same state. She lets me know that she wasn't sure why I split and would like some reconciliation. She wanted to let me know that she'd loved me dearly and was still missing me. She's divorced and has two children.
I Told D that DD had contact me. D was completely cool with us reconnecting and me being able to get some weight off my chest. D was good with me going to have coffee and just do some catching up in person. Prior to me leaving to go have coffee with DD, D told me that if DD had more than friendly feelings that D probably won't want to meet DD because of D getting jealous. However if DD was just friendly then D would love to meet DD
It didn't take long for us to realize we both still carry strong feelings for each other. We both want to get to know each other again. We're both emotionally and physically attracted to each other. DD asked me if an open relationship would be possible. I informed her that D did not seem very comfortable with the open relationship idea prior, but I will see if that is an option.
As I previously stated, D and I have great communication in our relationship. I've been having a hard time finding how I'd like to bring this to her so as that she doesn't feel too threatened and/or feel like I lover her any less.
It has been just over a week since I went to meet DD in person. I feel that I need to let D know how DD and I feel sooner than later of course. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.
I'll be referring to my wife as D from here out.
The first love of my life is a wonderful woman that I had met shortly after we got out of highschool. We ended up going to college together. We we had a great 3yrs together. I, at the end, had overloaded myself between work and school. I had a breakdown one day and packed my clothes and left. This was 11yrs ago. I will refer to this person as DD from here out.
I spent a year or two discovering myself. Learning to deal with stress and where my limits are, ect... I'd been upset with myself for doing that to DD ever since. I'd lost contact with DD shortly after I walked. D has known that DD was a special person in my life that I loved and felt bad for leaving in that manner, let alone at all. I'd learned through friends that DD had gotten married 9yrs ago and moved out of country. Then I realized I'll never get a chance to apologize. It was hard to get past. I, over time, came to peace knowing that I'm not the person I was in the past. Knowing I'm more self aware.
About 3weeks ago, DD contacts me. Tells me she's back in the states, and in fact in the same state. She lets me know that she wasn't sure why I split and would like some reconciliation. She wanted to let me know that she'd loved me dearly and was still missing me. She's divorced and has two children.
I Told D that DD had contact me. D was completely cool with us reconnecting and me being able to get some weight off my chest. D was good with me going to have coffee and just do some catching up in person. Prior to me leaving to go have coffee with DD, D told me that if DD had more than friendly feelings that D probably won't want to meet DD because of D getting jealous. However if DD was just friendly then D would love to meet DD
It didn't take long for us to realize we both still carry strong feelings for each other. We both want to get to know each other again. We're both emotionally and physically attracted to each other. DD asked me if an open relationship would be possible. I informed her that D did not seem very comfortable with the open relationship idea prior, but I will see if that is an option.
As I previously stated, D and I have great communication in our relationship. I've been having a hard time finding how I'd like to bring this to her so as that she doesn't feel too threatened and/or feel like I lover her any less.
It has been just over a week since I went to meet DD in person. I feel that I need to let D know how DD and I feel sooner than later of course. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.