A letter to … my family – I wish I could tell you I’m in a ménage à trois

I read it too. And it does not read authentic to me as an individual's actual experience. It feels more like a fantasy doing double duty as a persuasive piece.
 
opalescent said:
I read it too. And it does not read authentic to me as an individual's actual experience. It feels more like a fantasy doing double duty as a persuasive piece.
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Agree. Especially the part about sex - how the husband joins in when wife+gf have sex... yep, not very credible. That part does sound like a horny guy's fantasy.
 
Sounds like the Guardian was taken in by an imposter then. Unusual, but these things do happen. I wonder if they checked it out before publishing it?
 
I can't tell if the article is a fake. It certainly is very idealistic.
 
It does kinda come across as that mix of sparkly & prurient that makes me feel it's imaginary, just Porn Lite romance. And the title sounds a LOT like "I wish that I were in a menage a trois." (It could just as easily have been "A letter to … my family – I’m in a ménage à trois" because writing anonymously in an "open letter" column indicates the avoidance already.)
northhome said:
The article was written by a woman.... Did you read it?
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Nonsense. :p

The piece was written by someone named Anonymous.

It was written from a woman's viewpoint, so coulda been a woman, man, or Google app.

If you have actual facts, please share.
 
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Wow, okay. Um, well I'm Laura, a woman and I wrote that letter. It wasn't describing a fantasy or written by my husband. It was our first venture into polyamory and to this day, I still can't believe how well it all 'fitted together'. I wrote that letter because I was in love and happy and wanted to share that. My husband was a bloody lucky guy though! :)

It's really sad to read such cynical comments about it but I know we live in an increasingly cynical world. I know more cynics will tear this post apart, demand I 'prove it' etc etc

As per my letter, I'll just carrying on embracing love in poly and wish that the cynics find it themselves one day.

x
 
Hi Laura,

I don't mean to doubt you, you have to understand that in the internet, all kinds of things can happen, so people tend to have doubts. I am happy for you if you have the triad that you have. Have you been able to share any of that with your family?

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Yorkcouple said:
Wow, okay. Um, well I'm Laura, a woman and I wrote that letter. It wasn't describing a fantasy or written by my husband. It was our first venture into polyamory and to this day, I still can't believe how well it all 'fitted together'. I wrote that letter because I was in love and happy and wanted to share that. My husband was a bloody lucky guy though! :)

It's really sad to read such cynical comments about it but I know we live in an increasingly cynical world. I know more cynics will tear this post apart, demand I 'prove it' etc etc

As per my letter, I'll just carrying on embracing love in poly and wish that the cynics find it themselves one day.

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Seriously? You're the actual author? You just happened to join this board and saw a thread about your article? Or you did a search for your article and found the thread here?

Now I need to reread it.

And yes, of course, you could be a troll and just saying you wrote it. We have no way of knowing... this being your first post. We don't know any of your background.

There is plenty to be cynical about in this world. Have you noticed who we have for president?
 
OK, I read it. The "sparkle turning into a raging fire" by adding threeway sex into your life was rather a florid turn of phrase. I've never read any posts here (and I've been here a long time) where a man or woman approached poly as a way to "sustain a sparkle" in the primary couple by "adding a third." I've read people who want to "spice up" or "save" a flagging relationship by finding a unicorn, and it's never worked. Often, usually, it kills all 3 dyads and the triad as well.

Is your V/triad still surviving?

I feel funny even asking that, since this could still all be fake and a wanking fantasy of a troll.

Sorry if I am mistaken.
 
I certainly see how hurtful it would be to put something like that out there in the world and not be believed.

I'm not a cynic. I believe in liberal government, puppies, kittens, and the power of love.

But I am a skeptic. And I am deeply skeptical of mainstream media's portrayal of poly. It's often, in my opinion, unthinking and at worst, outright damaging. The article struck me as a fantasy because the lack of internal issues was just very uncommon for most people when segueing to poly relationships. Now I realize it reflected NRE and new love.

I'm glad it was your real life, positive experience. What is your poly life like now?

I hope you take a look around the forum. Your point of view would be welcome.
 
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