Hello, sure I will do my best to answer.
We have a had 8 relationship over the span of 32 yrs.
The shortest was a just over a year and the longest was juts over 5.5 yrs.
The 1st relationship wasn't something that was planned. We were all young and the words used today were not used back then. We didn't really know what it was called, but we knew it was different and more than just sex. She was a friend, she moved in with us and after some time we discussed feelings and "being together" we took it to the next step and we ended up in a relationship for 4 yrs. It ended, life changed and life required us to relocate. She decided that she wasn't ready to give up friends and family to move away. day.
The 2nd one was love at first site for my wife. My wife and I had a discussion since now we knew a little better of what was going on. I spoke to the girl, oops I mean younger women. hahaha, see above. She was very open to the idea although it wasn't "normal" so it we all didn't really know what we had other than a relationship. This relationship was it, sooooo amazing and if I wrote about about love, commitment, trust, communication and how how to have a relationship and what its about, this would be what I would base it on. The relationship lasted 5 yrs and ended as she had some past demons that came back and addiction took over. I found out juts a few years back she recovered and has been happily married for a while.
Our 3rd relationship was one that was a bit of a wilder rider. This relationship last about 3,5 yrs. I ended up being injured and I was not able to preform my "manly" duties for a number of months. After many discussion and confusion we parted ways as the sexual aspect of life was something she needed more than anyone knew. Her wanting to be faithful but unable to dial back her urges and keep them in check we decided to part ways as we could see resentment building up and it harming the relationship.
The 4th relationship was one that ended up shocking all of us and lasted 3 years on and off. We met with the intent of being in a relationship. A few months later we found out she was pregnant. 6 months later we found out it wasn't mine and then things got very confusing. Her ex had some legal issues and was not able to be around for the birth or the next 18 yrs of her sons life. She was on a emotional roll coaster and after giving birth she wasn't sure now since it was not my child with her. We decided it was best to part ways so she could get her life figured out.
The 5th was a very chaotic one and lasted over 4 yrs.. We met a someone her was our fist experience of a large age gap, she was much younger than us, she was of course older than the legal age of consent. We dated for number of months with the intent if thigs were working out to be in a relationship. She really like the idea of being with and "older couple" She was more into labels and terminology as now social media and "lifestyles" were becoming mainstream. As it turned out and we found out about 2 yrs in, she had had very traumatic experiences as a child and they were coming to the surface. We decided counselling was a good idea and working through the trauma/issues. Due to many factors this ended up being a very lousy next 2 years. Having all this come to the surface, the pain, hurt, self blame etc substances when available were used to cope with the pain. She became wild and actually dangerous to herself and to the relationship. We all did try and try and try....but I had to personally step in and say it was enough and we had to part ways.
Our 6th relationship happened by accident in a way. We met someone new and after discussing and getting to know each other she was very intrigued and interested as she saw what we were looking for as genuine and true. She wanted in and we all decided to give it a shot, this was a long distance relationship and unfortunately the distance was what ended it after 3 yrs.
Our 7th relationship was with someone from our past who was always interested in our lifestyle. Her marriage ended and after a few yrs we needed up connecting and talking. One thing led to another and we decided to give it a go. As it turned out, what we "knew" about her was true and once we found out she was in it for the money, we had to end it. This was the shortest relationship and last just over a year. This one was too bad as it checked all the boxes, except the importance of money.
Our 8th relationship lasted the longest and was very similar in many ways to our 2nd relationship in terms of feelings and a future. It was also a long distance relationship and we were making plans to be "together forever" living split times in either location.....Unfortunately she was diagnosed with cancer a few years back and it has continuously got worse. After much heartache and loving/passionate arguments, we gave in to her will and ended the relationship as she did not wan to hurt us and us hurt her as she knew what we were going to have. This relationship and the person she is is a very tough one to let go. Its one of those situations where you look at who she is and what she went/is going through and you say, no way not her, of all the people she doesn't deserve it. So with a sad and heavy heart we dis as she wished and pared ways after 5,5 yrs.
We speak to all but 1 of the girls of our past relationship on a somewhat regular basis, as in a few times or more a year. What we had with each of them was very special and incredible. All 3 of us have been blessed and were able to meet, ,make connections, fall in love and life a wonderful life together.
I tried to get to the heart of what you asked, keep it short as it is hard to condense 32 yrs into a few paragraphs hahahaha.
For my wife and I, we were looking and are still looking to find that "women" younger or older and have that "together forever" life with. The sad things is, life actually runs out and after this many years I sometime wonder who is looking back at me in the mirror hahahaha. I'm still that guy screaming at the top of my lungs some Bon Jovi song with my hair flying in the wind (which somehow disappeared) with the T tops off of my IROC Z hahahaha....
So now its just work on our cherry orchard/farm and see who else may be looking for the things we are, and trying to find her with the crazy thing called the InterWeb.
