After 10 years of marriage I'm on a course correction

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Pretenderman18

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Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a sofa surfer for about a year now as i try and decide what I'm doing with my life. I currently move between Bristol and Portsmouth every few months. I'm currently feeling that I'm bi and looking to have a male and female in my life. I don't know the hows the whens and the whys. It's certainly not from a rabid desire to sleep around. During my marriage I found my emotional attachment to certain friends going beyond what felt like "normal". I could spew out all my thoughts, but I'm not sure all the sexual stuff is needed at this point. I do all that on my twitter. I've joined this forum as a way to start addressing how i feel about myself in a more mature way. At least that's my intention. I hope I don't piss anyone off. Sorry in advance.
 
Welcome!

Your marriage is over now? You are exploring a new way forward post-divorce?
 
In '22 we had a trial separation. We hadn't had sex for 10 yrs, since we made our 3rd child on honeymoon. She was very controlling about bedtimes, how I dressed and who I could be friends with. By Feb '23 we decided to split, at which I went 0-60 in terms of repressed urges and curiosity. I popped my cherry in Wolverhampton with a nice man and ended up going on a weeklong holiday with him & some of his friends, really exploring men.

I haven't come out to my family yet, but a few good friends know.

I had a few body dysmorphia issues regarding my genitals, that my therapist suggests is down to the submissive nature of my previous marriage.

And here I am... very much a work in progress.
 
Greetings Dan,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You seem to have a relatively clear view of where you are in your life, where you want to be, and of what you do and don't know so far. I don't think you will piss anyone off, I wouldn't worry too much about that. Just keep posting, and let us know how we can help.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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