Polyperson
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Hey so I don't know where else or who else to ask about this so I am hoping for some help. I'm polyamorous and feel I have been my whole life. I feel it's a part of myself and my orientation, just like being pansexual is.
But I have a friend who I have explained that I'm polyamorous to. She's decided she's polyamorous as well. She said it must be why she has cheated on every single partner she's ever had, including her ex husband. She's kind of single and sleeping around and that's ok she's an adult who can do as she pleases. But she keeps having people want to be in relationships with her and she just keeps complaining about it and only wanting sex. She has someone that she's in a kind of open relationship with but they aren't in a relationship but act like it but sleep with other people etc. but whenever he is interested in other women she gets jealous and complains and is generally unhappy whenever he spends too much time with other women. Or when the other women claim to want to be sexual with them both but end up gravitating more toward him.
I feel like she's not understanding what polyamory is and is using to justify cheating and sleeping around (again I've no problem with the second part)
I feel like she's just picking it up and twisting it. It's a huge part of my life and I know I'm being dumb but it feels she's just mocking a part of me or trying to take parts of me to adjust them to herself. And it feels like she keeps doing this to me. Similar instance is pronouns. When I met her, like when I meet everyone I ask pronouns, she said she doesn't care and mostly uses she/her and she's gender queer. I've recently decided that the pronoun singular they fits me and told her about it. She's now going by they on Facebook and such. Which she changed a few days after I told her.
I kind of feel like I should explain polyamory to her because I don't think she understands it. Am I being oversensitive? Am I being a bad friend? It kind of makes me want to wall off parts of myself to her.
But I have a friend who I have explained that I'm polyamorous to. She's decided she's polyamorous as well. She said it must be why she has cheated on every single partner she's ever had, including her ex husband. She's kind of single and sleeping around and that's ok she's an adult who can do as she pleases. But she keeps having people want to be in relationships with her and she just keeps complaining about it and only wanting sex. She has someone that she's in a kind of open relationship with but they aren't in a relationship but act like it but sleep with other people etc. but whenever he is interested in other women she gets jealous and complains and is generally unhappy whenever he spends too much time with other women. Or when the other women claim to want to be sexual with them both but end up gravitating more toward him.
I feel like she's not understanding what polyamory is and is using to justify cheating and sleeping around (again I've no problem with the second part)
I feel like she's just picking it up and twisting it. It's a huge part of my life and I know I'm being dumb but it feels she's just mocking a part of me or trying to take parts of me to adjust them to herself. And it feels like she keeps doing this to me. Similar instance is pronouns. When I met her, like when I meet everyone I ask pronouns, she said she doesn't care and mostly uses she/her and she's gender queer. I've recently decided that the pronoun singular they fits me and told her about it. She's now going by they on Facebook and such. Which she changed a few days after I told her.
I kind of feel like I should explain polyamory to her because I don't think she understands it. Am I being oversensitive? Am I being a bad friend? It kind of makes me want to wall off parts of myself to her.
