Valleydoll
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Join Date: Jul 2016
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Default anybody out there? Help! stuffs going haywire!
My bf became part of my life because my husband liked me to have sex with other men, which I did, and I fell in love. Before it was apparent I had feelings for my bf my sexual relationship with my husband was fun, sexy etc. Even though I was having sex with random men and physically it was okay, it wasn't something I've ever wanted or suggested, I'm more a 'loving' sensual kind of person.
When I/we realised (quite quickly) that I had a connection with my bf, my husband started to become quite crude (I won't go into details but 'reclaiming etc was part of it) in his attitude to our marital physical relationship. This did nothing for me and it's been a couple of weeks since we were intimate (I've not been intimate with my bf either as he's away). My husband says I'm neglecting him because I havent had sex with him (I work 30+ hrs a week, look after the kids, cook, wash clothes, not fantastic at cleaning I'll admit) and now doesn't want to be with me. He's never asked me to give up my bf but just refers to it being my choice which feels like choosing to carry on being with him is not the right thing. Been trying to work out the whole respecting all parties involved etc but some insight, debate or downright telling off would be appreciated to help me see things more clearly. Thank you for reading if you've got this far xx
Join Date: Jul 2016
Posts: 4
Default anybody out there? Help! stuffs going haywire!
My bf became part of my life because my husband liked me to have sex with other men, which I did, and I fell in love. Before it was apparent I had feelings for my bf my sexual relationship with my husband was fun, sexy etc. Even though I was having sex with random men and physically it was okay, it wasn't something I've ever wanted or suggested, I'm more a 'loving' sensual kind of person.
When I/we realised (quite quickly) that I had a connection with my bf, my husband started to become quite crude (I won't go into details but 'reclaiming etc was part of it) in his attitude to our marital physical relationship. This did nothing for me and it's been a couple of weeks since we were intimate (I've not been intimate with my bf either as he's away). My husband says I'm neglecting him because I havent had sex with him (I work 30+ hrs a week, look after the kids, cook, wash clothes, not fantastic at cleaning I'll admit) and now doesn't want to be with me. He's never asked me to give up my bf but just refers to it being my choice which feels like choosing to carry on being with him is not the right thing. Been trying to work out the whole respecting all parties involved etc but some insight, debate or downright telling off would be appreciated to help me see things more clearly. Thank you for reading if you've got this far xx