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Vendividiamavi

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Hey there guys, its been a while. To be honest, I was coming here for advice, not community itself. I needed to figure myself out. I didn't post on other threads, I only asked questions. But I feel I can really start to contribute in ways that are necessary to be part of a community and I'd like to ask forgiveness, in return I will give advice when I can and not just lurk.
 
Welcome to the community then! It's a lot easier to give and get advise if people know where you are coming from rather than trying to give advise in a vacuum. Glad to have you!
 
Welcome back. The best way to get advice is to give it, sometimes...and personally I've found that sometimes answering someone else's question helps answer one or two of my own.
 
Just explaining my polyanarchist mindset to a friend did a world of help to me, and I don't feel so crazy hahaha. So I'm off to go peruse for advice I can give!
 
Hey Vendi,

Don't get me wrong, we welcome lurkers and posters both. And we welcome question-askers and answer-givers. No preferential treatment. But that said, I'm interested to hear more of your posts, and I'm certain you'll be able to help various people who have questions for you.

No apologies needed, nothing to forgive. Glad to have you as part of the community.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
I can completely relate to this. Since I discovered this site I have been lurking here on nearly a daily basis yet I have not been particularly active in the community. I think the reason for this is I do not feel I have enough experience in poly to offer any real sound advice. I have learned much from the advice of others and in many ways used the advice I have read in my own situation. This community is a warm environment and as I get more confident I will be glad to be more vocal as well.
 
That sounds good to me.
 
There's absolutely nothing wrong with lurking, nor with asking questions. I think for some, myself included, it's a bit more of a problem if someone asks a number of questions in separate threads and either gets annoyed by the answers or by the lack thereof, while not responding to anyone else's threads.

On the other hand, some people don't think they have any responses to give, but I think for the most part, if you read other people's threads, you might realize you know more than you believe you do and might be able to say something helpful.
 
I think it's great that you want to participate and I know that you will get lots of help and support. It always feels good for me to give something back to the group, so even though I am a newbie, I try. Welcome!
 
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