Surprised not to see more threads on this topic! I am a newly married person, and wonder how other married monogamous people out there go about exploring attraction with a crush/ asking your crush out? In the past, when trying to determine if someone likes me, I try to reflect on whether there is an equal effort to initiate hang outs, etc. However, now that I am married I'm thinking, maybe other people might hang back on the initiating part, or perhaps assuming that because I live with my wife, I am never free? How on Earth do you get across that you are happily married and still available for dates, but in a way that doesn't totally blow your cover? ("cover" as in, not necessarily wanting to reveal my feelings yet, I'm like 80% sure she knows I'm poly).