Surfer can be just the sweetest man. We recently were away with Cowboy & Pixie. Cowboy left early because he had to return to work. Surfer & I were relaxing in a common area of a lifestyle friendly resort which we all frequent. Another guest stopped by to talk to Surfer & said "I met your wife earlier but who is this lady to you?" Surfer said, "My best friend." I just found it very touching. He's had numerous girlfriends, FWB & fuck buddies but views me as more. Yes I still struggle with him being a swinger at times & other swingers struggle to understand the dynamic but we certainly have something special.