Betrayal in polyamory? - Update

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Alodia

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So I left. I came back home to clear my head and think if I can give him another chance or not, to see if I can trust him again.

I am so sad. And miss him at the same time.

I have cried so much and really don't know what to do with myself. Can't seem to be able to sleep. I keep binge-watching tv shows to distract me from thinking.

Any tips on how to deal with sadness?

Thanks
 
Hello GalaGirl. Thank you so much for your tips.

I do have friends here, I am staying at my friends' house at the moment and they are trying to be supportive, but they are mono and don't really get the whole poly thing, I feel a little judgment whenever I try to talk about what happened and it kinda discourages me from talking.

But they are here offering me food and things like that =)
 
They don't have to be poly to understand cheating on agreements. You don't need help with polyshipping. You need help recovering after your BF cheats on agreements.

Galagirl
 
Hi Alodia,

Sorry you are in a state of suffering right now. Hopefully you'll have the time that you need to think.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
I don't enjoy being with people too much, so no idea if this will help you, but for me what works when I'm hurting bad is to stay busy. Get obsessive over some hobby, spam followers on social media with cryptic melodrama then waste more time giving non-answers to the flood of questions that pop up, think the shit out of something overdue then do it, do some overdue thing you never found time for, and so on.

It doesn't resolve the sadness of course, that comes with you thinking things through and resolving them in your mind, but runs some interference with the overwhelm and buys you some time so you can process things at a pace you can handle... or something. At least it works for me.
 
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