Hello all,
I've been lurking around for about a month and finally decided I wanted to introduce myself.
I'm Rocket, a 25 year old woman who just discovered the concept of Polyamory about two months ago. I stumbled upon it really, from an article and the whole thing blew my mind. I had never considered that people could love more than one person at a time and have functional happy relationships. I read a little more about it and I was instantly able to accept the concept, and thought it might make a lot of sense in my personal life.
Now, I'm a happily married woman, and the idea of bringing the concept up to my husband, we shall call him Bucky, was a little scary. When i first mentioned it to him I mostly wanted to share this neat thing I had learned. For the time being Bucky is on the other side of the world for work, so I decided to just share the concept with him and mentioned that I could see us having poly relationships and leave it at that.
Bucky took it all pretty well. He was a little caught off guard, but he is a pretty solid guy so he wasn't too worried about it.
I didn't want to bring it up too much while he is away so I decided to just try to not talk to him about it until he comes home (which would have been about two months from that point in time.) I did more research and found myself getting increasingly more frustrated about not having someone to talk to about this new thing.
After about a week of stewing it occurred to me that I did have one friend I could go to who would be non judgmental. My friend, we will call him Thor, and I used to be in a long distance relationship about 6 years ago. Over the years we have talked to each other on and off and tried to stay good friends. So I contacted Thor and as it happened he already knew about the concept and we were able to have a good talk about it without me having to explain too much. After that we were able to catch up as it had been awhile since we had really talked.
The very next day I said screw this noise and decided I wanted to talk to Bucky about it. He's my husband and best friend and I love discussing/debating things with him. As it turned out he had been waiting for me to bring it back up since the first time I had mentioned it. We had a good talk about it and he was very open to the idea.
I continued to talk to stay in touch with Thor and over the next few days I started to remember all the reasons I had loved him before, and the thought occured to me that if Bucky decided he was okay with the whole poly thing maybe Thor and I could try things again.
I expressed this to Thor, and he was taken aback at first, but quickly decided that IF Bucky decided he was okay with it this was something he wanted to pursue. I immediately told Bucky about this exchange and my feelings because I didn't want there to be any secrets kept between us.
Bucky and Thor had had some interactions back in the day and liked each other in general (they have a lot in common and similar senses of humor.) I think that previous interaction helped Bucky be open to the whole concept. He said he was alright with us talking/flirting etc.
The timeline gets a little fuzzy for me at this point, but basically Thor and Bucky have been spending a decent amount of time talking, just the two of them, and we have all also been group chatting as well. At this point Bucky and Thor are extremely friendly with each other and cannot wait to meet.
Thor is coming to visit in just a couple of days (it will be our first time meeting face to face) and all of us are very excited and very nervous. As long as everything goes well on this first visit he is going to come up here again after Bucky comes home.
The whole situation has made me feel even more loving and admiration toward Bucky because I still cannot believe I married such a understanding and open minded man. Makes me miss him that much more.
I know things will probably get more complex once we are all together, but it feels like its worth it.
I've been lurking around for about a month and finally decided I wanted to introduce myself.
I'm Rocket, a 25 year old woman who just discovered the concept of Polyamory about two months ago. I stumbled upon it really, from an article and the whole thing blew my mind. I had never considered that people could love more than one person at a time and have functional happy relationships. I read a little more about it and I was instantly able to accept the concept, and thought it might make a lot of sense in my personal life.
Now, I'm a happily married woman, and the idea of bringing the concept up to my husband, we shall call him Bucky, was a little scary. When i first mentioned it to him I mostly wanted to share this neat thing I had learned. For the time being Bucky is on the other side of the world for work, so I decided to just share the concept with him and mentioned that I could see us having poly relationships and leave it at that.
Bucky took it all pretty well. He was a little caught off guard, but he is a pretty solid guy so he wasn't too worried about it.
I didn't want to bring it up too much while he is away so I decided to just try to not talk to him about it until he comes home (which would have been about two months from that point in time.) I did more research and found myself getting increasingly more frustrated about not having someone to talk to about this new thing.
After about a week of stewing it occurred to me that I did have one friend I could go to who would be non judgmental. My friend, we will call him Thor, and I used to be in a long distance relationship about 6 years ago. Over the years we have talked to each other on and off and tried to stay good friends. So I contacted Thor and as it happened he already knew about the concept and we were able to have a good talk about it without me having to explain too much. After that we were able to catch up as it had been awhile since we had really talked.
The very next day I said screw this noise and decided I wanted to talk to Bucky about it. He's my husband and best friend and I love discussing/debating things with him. As it turned out he had been waiting for me to bring it back up since the first time I had mentioned it. We had a good talk about it and he was very open to the idea.
I continued to talk to stay in touch with Thor and over the next few days I started to remember all the reasons I had loved him before, and the thought occured to me that if Bucky decided he was okay with the whole poly thing maybe Thor and I could try things again.
I expressed this to Thor, and he was taken aback at first, but quickly decided that IF Bucky decided he was okay with it this was something he wanted to pursue. I immediately told Bucky about this exchange and my feelings because I didn't want there to be any secrets kept between us.
Bucky and Thor had had some interactions back in the day and liked each other in general (they have a lot in common and similar senses of humor.) I think that previous interaction helped Bucky be open to the whole concept. He said he was alright with us talking/flirting etc.
The timeline gets a little fuzzy for me at this point, but basically Thor and Bucky have been spending a decent amount of time talking, just the two of them, and we have all also been group chatting as well. At this point Bucky and Thor are extremely friendly with each other and cannot wait to meet.
Thor is coming to visit in just a couple of days (it will be our first time meeting face to face) and all of us are very excited and very nervous. As long as everything goes well on this first visit he is going to come up here again after Bucky comes home.
The whole situation has made me feel even more loving and admiration toward Bucky because I still cannot believe I married such a understanding and open minded man. Makes me miss him that much more.
I know things will probably get more complex once we are all together, but it feels like its worth it.
