AJoy
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I've looked through the poly glossary because I'm really quite unfamiliar with poly terms, but there are a couple of terms that I found that might express the nature of our relationship... Closed triad maybe?
I met my husband about five years ago and we were married two years ago. Right before this, I fell in love with my best friend. I talked very openly with my husband about my feelings well before anything happened (and I really didn't think anything would because I didn't know our feelings were mutual. She was married. I was engaged. I found out later that she had also been talking to her husband about she and I getting together in a sexual capacity.
After she and I got together for the first time (using a few drinks for the nerves). Anyway, it was a lovely and very lusty and loving whirlwind relationship. During this time, I shared all of my feelings and experiences with my man. She, on the other hand had been reserved about her emotional attachment to me with her husband and when she told him her feelings for me, be demanded it end because he only let it happen because he assumed it was purely sexual. She ended us, as he demanded, probably the most emotionally excruciating experience in my life (during which. My guy took amazing care of me). After a few months of separation and questionable relationship status between she and I, she was divorced, we were back together. During the time she took figuring out her feelings about her marriage, she and my guy spent some time talking about it all and discovered that they also had feelings for each other (they work together and were traveling at the time).
Anyway, fast forward to present day. We've all three been together now for two years. We own our house together, share a bank account, combined and doubled our female wardrobe . There were a lot of emotions to work through in the beginning because if the rocky intermission in our relationship . I no longer wanted a marriage because I wanted us all on equal footing with each other. I did end up marrying my guy, but also plan to have a marriage ceremony of our own, she and I. My guy and she will do the same. One major factor in my legal marriage with my guy came down to health insurance (I was diagnosed bipolar around that time - prescriptions and doctors appts. Get expensive!).
The point behind all of this is that we are very equal in our relationship. We are open about everything good and bad. We all sleep together every night. We prefer all of us having sex together, but use other couple combinations depending on whose in the mood or there. We go on separate dates sometimes when our third is busy or out of town, but we honestly spend most of our dates as well as leisure time together. We are best friends so we sometimes too much of home bodies because we don't see the need for company of others. We all have a few of our own friends we get together with, but again, we most prefer hanging together. We are now planning to have a baby in the next couple years, that we intend to raise as equal parents (still talking through all of those implications).
I apologize for my affliction of being too verbose, I'll come to the point of the post. Whatever it's called, I have hardly ever seen examples of this kind of relationship on poly sites. I would love to hear stores from anyone else with this relationship. I'd also love to hear insight from anyone with thoughts about why this relationship type is less common... Is it because it doesn't quite match the concept of poly (being basically like a mono couple except with three). Really, I would love to hear from anyone with any thought on the matter.
Thanks!
I met my husband about five years ago and we were married two years ago. Right before this, I fell in love with my best friend. I talked very openly with my husband about my feelings well before anything happened (and I really didn't think anything would because I didn't know our feelings were mutual. She was married. I was engaged. I found out later that she had also been talking to her husband about she and I getting together in a sexual capacity.
After she and I got together for the first time (using a few drinks for the nerves). Anyway, it was a lovely and very lusty and loving whirlwind relationship. During this time, I shared all of my feelings and experiences with my man. She, on the other hand had been reserved about her emotional attachment to me with her husband and when she told him her feelings for me, be demanded it end because he only let it happen because he assumed it was purely sexual. She ended us, as he demanded, probably the most emotionally excruciating experience in my life (during which. My guy took amazing care of me). After a few months of separation and questionable relationship status between she and I, she was divorced, we were back together. During the time she took figuring out her feelings about her marriage, she and my guy spent some time talking about it all and discovered that they also had feelings for each other (they work together and were traveling at the time).
Anyway, fast forward to present day. We've all three been together now for two years. We own our house together, share a bank account, combined and doubled our female wardrobe . There were a lot of emotions to work through in the beginning because if the rocky intermission in our relationship . I no longer wanted a marriage because I wanted us all on equal footing with each other. I did end up marrying my guy, but also plan to have a marriage ceremony of our own, she and I. My guy and she will do the same. One major factor in my legal marriage with my guy came down to health insurance (I was diagnosed bipolar around that time - prescriptions and doctors appts. Get expensive!).
The point behind all of this is that we are very equal in our relationship. We are open about everything good and bad. We all sleep together every night. We prefer all of us having sex together, but use other couple combinations depending on whose in the mood or there. We go on separate dates sometimes when our third is busy or out of town, but we honestly spend most of our dates as well as leisure time together. We are best friends so we sometimes too much of home bodies because we don't see the need for company of others. We all have a few of our own friends we get together with, but again, we most prefer hanging together. We are now planning to have a baby in the next couple years, that we intend to raise as equal parents (still talking through all of those implications).
I apologize for my affliction of being too verbose, I'll come to the point of the post. Whatever it's called, I have hardly ever seen examples of this kind of relationship on poly sites. I would love to hear stores from anyone else with this relationship. I'd also love to hear insight from anyone with thoughts about why this relationship type is less common... Is it because it doesn't quite match the concept of poly (being basically like a mono couple except with three). Really, I would love to hear from anyone with any thought on the matter.
Thanks!