Snowflake123
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My second partner (I’m married) is also married. They opened up their marriage after his wife met someone unexpectedly that turned into cheating. She wanted to continue that relationship (long distance) and he also wanted to experience dating other people as well so he met me on an app. This has been going on almost a year. The issue I have is he will only make time to see me when she is away visiting her boyfriend vs making time regardless of that. We live and hour and a half away as is plus I have kids so feels disrespectful/ selfish to only see me when it’s convenient bc she is gone. She has struggled to accept and fully embrace him also having a relationship and so I think he chooses the east route of seeing me to avoid conflict. It is wearing on me that I never know when I’ll see him bc his wife may not have plans etc. I sent him an email yesterday basically taking a stand stating I want it to feel like a real relationship where I am also priority if he is choosing to invite me into his life. Just curious peoples’ thoughts on all this…seems a true healthy relationship would be the hinge considering my feelings and needs as well and continuously advocating for our relationship. I think he also avoids texting me in front of her…