Dating Apps suck.....Oh hi!

Chris1980

Chris1980

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Hello all! My wife and I are relatively new to the poly lifestyle( Been actively engaging for 8 months). She's had all the luck only using Tinder while I've struck out on Tinder, Bumble, and a couple others. So here I am! I'm planning to post in the dating section soon but I've heard(and seen) this is a welcoming community so thanks(in advance) for any and all advice, warm wishes and fellow member introductions.
 
kdt26417

kdt26417

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Greetings Chris1980,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It's true dating apps suck ... there are dating websites but they suck too (I have a list of dating websites if you're interested). I find that the best way to meet people is in person via live events -- hobbies that interest you and such. You get to know people as friends first, and then if something more develops, that is a bonus. You are correct in posting on our dating board, but to be honest, Polyamory.com performs pretty poorly as a dating site. We are more of a discussion site. That doesn't mean you can't meet anyone here, but a romantic connection is rather unusual.

All that aside, I am glad you have joined us and I think you will find this forum helpful in giving you information about polyamory; if you have any questions let us know. I looked at your Dating & Friendship post and noticed you are a D&Der ... I daresay we have many D&Ders here. Good luck and make yourself at home!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Chris1980

Chris1980

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kdt26417 said:
Greetings Chris1980,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It's true dating apps suck ... there are dating websites but they suck too (I have a list of dating websites if you're interested). I find that the best way to meet people is in person via live events -- hobbies that interest you and such. You get to know people as friends first, and then if something more develops, that is a bonus. You are correct in posting on our dating board, but to be honest, Polyamory.com performs pretty poorly as a dating site. We are more of a discussion site. That doesn't mean you can't meet anyone here, but a romantic connection is rather unusual.

All that aside, I am glad you have joined us and I think you will find this forum helpful in giving you information about polyamory; if you have any questions let us know. I looked at your Dating & Friendship post and noticed you are a D&Der ... I daresay we have many D&Ders here. Good luck and make yourself at home!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
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Thanks Kevin! And ya any advice or good websites dating or otherwise would be awesome! Yes I'd love that list! My experience is limited lol.
 
kdt26417

kdt26417

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IconistHolly

New member
Hello! Have you tried the new polyam dating app Iconist? It’s fairly new so not many members but the design is great 😊

I also recommend trying meetup, find local events in your area to meet new people
 
Sara the frisky viking

Sara the frisky viking

New member
Chris1980 said:
Hello all! My wife and I are relatively new to the poly lifestyle( Been actively engaging for 8 months). She's had all the luck only using Tinder while I've struck out on Tinder, Bumble, and a couple others. So here I am! I'm planning to post in the dating section soon but I've heard(and seen) this is a welcoming community so thanks(in advance) for any and all advice, warm wishes and fellow member introductions.
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Hi Chris,

I’m new here as well. Congrats on the new lifestyle.
I think a lot of guys have the experience you’re having where their partner is having a much easier time than themselves, at least initially. In fact most of our friends who’ve gone from monogamous to open relationships (poly or not) have had this experience. Usually it’s a question of supply and demand, plus, at least at times, differences in how each partner has kept themselves “marketable” (for example through health and fitness). There are sadly probably no quick fixes.
On the plus side, her being able to get 10x as many partners as you won’t matter in the long run, because you can’t maintain that anyway. So it’ll likely even out over time.

I will say there are also other apps you might want to consider - have you tried Feeld? That’s by far the best app in my opinion. At least if enough people are using it where you’re located.
 
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