lovinhimloviner
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I am currently living with my boyfriend John, and my children, and my husband Harlan is living with his gf Meg and having a baby. We used to all live together in a large house that I just bought at Christmas last year. The place we were living before was extremely small for the 4 of us and our 4 kids. We were at each other's throats. When we moved I'd had hope that things would get better.
We lived here 2 months before Harlan and I even slept together. We went from sleeping together 2 nights a week to only 2 nights a month. Half of those nights we weren't even sexual. We "celebrated" our 10 year anniversary in July. He got me a nice box of candies, but while he was there, picked up Meg some candy, as well. I also got a plaque with a sweet quote, but it isn't about what I got. It is about the feelings and emotions. He promised me on our wedding night that he would give me a honeymoon for our 10 year. What I got was a dinner I paid for and a one-handed foot rub while he watched TV and then passed out.
They had started trying to get pregnant in December of last year. Meg is direct supervisor at work. She is very mono and actually threw a fit one night when Harlan finally decided to give me a night. He cried to me about how he should have slept with me the night before, because that's when she thought he was going to sleep with me. Now she is mad at him for being an ass. It broke my heart that after my having to beg him for his time, he actually just sat there and told me how he had hurt Meg. I told him he should go, because that's where he really wanted to be. When she slammed the door and locked him out of his room, all I could do was laugh and say have fun with that.
I kept trying to hold onto him, but he didn't want anything to do with me. He kept saying if I would start treating him nicer, then he would start sleeping with me again. Every time I asked for examples of how I was being mean, he couldn't think of anything.
I asked them to move out. I learned the same day that they were going to have a baby.
I still love him, but I just don't think all of the pain and suffering is helping anyone. I'm sad that I'm not more upset about us splitting up. I think I did the right thing.
We lived here 2 months before Harlan and I even slept together. We went from sleeping together 2 nights a week to only 2 nights a month. Half of those nights we weren't even sexual. We "celebrated" our 10 year anniversary in July. He got me a nice box of candies, but while he was there, picked up Meg some candy, as well. I also got a plaque with a sweet quote, but it isn't about what I got. It is about the feelings and emotions. He promised me on our wedding night that he would give me a honeymoon for our 10 year. What I got was a dinner I paid for and a one-handed foot rub while he watched TV and then passed out.
They had started trying to get pregnant in December of last year. Meg is direct supervisor at work. She is very mono and actually threw a fit one night when Harlan finally decided to give me a night. He cried to me about how he should have slept with me the night before, because that's when she thought he was going to sleep with me. Now she is mad at him for being an ass. It broke my heart that after my having to beg him for his time, he actually just sat there and told me how he had hurt Meg. I told him he should go, because that's where he really wanted to be. When she slammed the door and locked him out of his room, all I could do was laugh and say have fun with that.
I kept trying to hold onto him, but he didn't want anything to do with me. He kept saying if I would start treating him nicer, then he would start sleeping with me again. Every time I asked for examples of how I was being mean, he couldn't think of anything.
I asked them to move out. I learned the same day that they were going to have a baby.
I still love him, but I just don't think all of the pain and suffering is helping anyone. I'm sad that I'm not more upset about us splitting up. I think I did the right thing.
