Disliking Threesomes

[Ariakas]

I definitely am a +1 to them. It's become more obvious the longer we date. They straight up said they wanted a girlfriend because our boyfriend works all the time so there's no one with our girlfriend, and they thought another girlfriend was a solution.

This here tells me everything.

They brought you in as a sex object and babysitter for the lonely wife. Sorry to be blunt. Run away there are better triads out there and honestly better relationships (poly or not)

Best of luck .

 

[Evie]

I agree. They have been using you. End it. Go find a happy relationship or three.

 

[SeekingUnicorn4Life]

Hi all. I'm in a closed FFM triad, and have been for over a month now. For reference, I'm the newest member of this triad. One thing I've noticed is I'm really starting to dislike threesomes. It was fun at first but now it just sucks the life out of me. Last night we had a threesome and I felt so weird afterward. I've tried to pinpoint why and I think I've identified a few reasons.

1. It's too much work. I like to be present in the moment with my partner. It's incredibly hard to do that if I ALSO need to be working on my other partner at the same time.
2. I'm never the center of a threesome. My boyfriend has been the center of attention, my girlfriend has been the center MULTIPLE times, and I never have. It gets old.
3. I'm almost always needing to do multiple things at the same time while my girlfriend doesn't need to. Last night, my boyfriend was having sex with her for a WHILE, while I kissed her. She didn't have to do anything while it was happening. But when it came to be my turn, I had to be eating my girlfriend out while my boyfriend had sex with me.

My boyfriend and girlfriend like threesomes but I'd vastly prefer one-on-one time because I don't have much fun with threesomes anymore.

Is it weird to dislike threesomes in a triad? Is something wrong with me?

seems like they invited you in with fake expectancy. Game players most likely.

This here tells me everything.

They brought you in as a sex object and babysitter for the lonely wife. Sorry to be blunt. Run away there are better triads out there and honestly better relationships (poly or not)

Best of luck .

Best thing is now you know and can move on. No matter what life you choose it will be better than just being used

 

[moiandre]

Dear Dansemacabre,

This is such a sad thread. Please stand up for yourself. You have to believe in your own self worth, and this community is here to support you in your decision.

I'm very new to poly, and we are a closed triad, so I've see so many times I would want to have been told, I wasn't making life and love better for my partners. A simple one line goodbye is all that's needed-- it isn't working for me anymore.

If it was fair, your boyfriend would stand up for you and have this conversation, so you would all be on the same page where love could flourish.

 

[MeeraReed]

I think you will feel a lot better about everything if you dump them.