Hi I need to give some back story. I meet this triad with three little kids about 8 years ago. I worked with the guy and got to see them pretty offen. It was easy to see each other. Walk up to him at end of day want to come over ok he bike over spend a hour with me go home be with family. When work was done it was done. His wife is sick so she stays in bed room often. So I didn't see much of her. When we both went to new jobs, him starting a photographer business and riding several miles a day there was not much time so we faded apart. In the last month he came back into my life it's great but I find it hard this time. This time the girl that was not sick was replaced because of jealousy issues. He lost some great people because of her and when the new one came in he didn't want to lose another one. He lost me once because of her. Things started out great with them having time to see me and me feeling wanted. Because of tour being on.
Now a few things have happened and I find it hard to see them or feel wanted. my hormones went out wack, I got on birth control again, I work more then I did before. He works the same photography business he started when we faded apart. Went on a 10 day trip, takes care of his three kids, went out of state again for just a day or so, and is riding 100 miles a day so he can be in some bike race coming up. We are all taking the trip. With all his work, him taking care of family, the trips, and riding bike its hard to find time. It also hard because I work nights. 11 to 7am. I also find it hard because I go by his house every day for work. I just can't drop over because of kids and work odd times.
I just went for a walk with girl who I am starting like more and more. She explained everything. It's a lot going on for them and they still want me in there life but right now I find it hard. Never sure when to txt, when there working, when he's riding, I don't want to be a pain but I want to feel wanted, and I have needs too that are not being meet. Just saw him for a few minutes the other day but kids were around, his mother in law was over, he had to work on trip photos, and go for 100 mile rid that day. Before that it was July 25 weekend. It now August 17. Photos are his life and he doesn't work a 7 to 4 job anymore. Not sure what to really do. I want them to be a part of my life and I'm trying to understand that they are not avoiding me but life is just crazy for them. Things will settle down but not sure when.
Now a few things have happened and I find it hard to see them or feel wanted. my hormones went out wack, I got on birth control again, I work more then I did before. He works the same photography business he started when we faded apart. Went on a 10 day trip, takes care of his three kids, went out of state again for just a day or so, and is riding 100 miles a day so he can be in some bike race coming up. We are all taking the trip. With all his work, him taking care of family, the trips, and riding bike its hard to find time. It also hard because I work nights. 11 to 7am. I also find it hard because I go by his house every day for work. I just can't drop over because of kids and work odd times.
I just went for a walk with girl who I am starting like more and more. She explained everything. It's a lot going on for them and they still want me in there life but right now I find it hard. Never sure when to txt, when there working, when he's riding, I don't want to be a pain but I want to feel wanted, and I have needs too that are not being meet. Just saw him for a few minutes the other day but kids were around, his mother in law was over, he had to work on trip photos, and go for 100 mile rid that day. Before that it was July 25 weekend. It now August 17. Photos are his life and he doesn't work a 7 to 4 job anymore. Not sure what to really do. I want them to be a part of my life and I'm trying to understand that they are not avoiding me but life is just crazy for them. Things will settle down but not sure when.
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