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JaneQSmythe
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FB = "FuckBuddy" = some may say "play partner" - a partner for sex (or BDSM play) that doesn't involve any other real attachment (for me, this means don't call or contact me between getting together times.)
FWB = "Friend-With-Benefits" = some may say "lover-friend" - a friendship that involves sexy times, but where the friendship is over-riding (and, for me, would exist whether or not there were sexy times) - hmmm? more than a friend and not quite a girl/boyfriend
I don't know that it is "cool" (or good/bad). It's how I am. And you are how you are...we are all our own individual persons. For me...I can enjoy sex without love (i.e. emotional attachment), I can also enjoy love without sex. These are two different things for me. Sometimes they intersect - and that is good. Sometimes they don't - and that is fine too. (To be quite fair, my life is full of both - love and sex - I have all that I need and more - all the extra is just gravy! )
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Sorry I didn't mean to imply cool(good/bad) what I meant was cool as in, it obviously makes you happy and you definitely seem to be in a good stage in life. Therefore as long as you are happy it is "cool" for you and therefore it is good for you subjectively. For me though, someone who despite being on the extreme side of kink and fetishism, basically requires emotional attachment on at least some level(I don't really know why, I'm kind of envious) it is not cool for me. It's subjective and we all like what we like and that's fine.
JaneQSmythe
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Yes!
That is kind of the point - for me. It's fine and cool and good if you want different things than what I want. My way makes sense for me and your way makes sense for you... even if we don't "get" why the other feels that way.
I'm kind of curious as to why you asked the original question regarding "how many"...even if the "general consensus" goes against your grain...does that really matter? We (I) am not you...and you may find (as I did) that your "ideal" doesn't match with your "reality" (and sometimes real life gives you options that you never supposed...)
PolyinPractice
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Like many on here, I'm going to restrict my answer to those IN my poly family (and not tangentially related, i.e. dating partners I'm involved with). So, there's myself, my partner, and, potentially, two new girlfriends (at the moment, however, my partner defines the poly group as just him and me, with them both considering whether they want to be part of the inner circle.)
My configuration is in my sig, but I'll expand a bit.
I live with my dear partner miss pixi, we've been together 5 years, living together for 1.
I have a boyfriend in the next town, Ginger. We have been together 2 1/2 years. He is married to Robin (together 40+ years). He is also FWBs with miss pixi. He has 2 new partners as well, Carla and David, who are married to each other (partners for 19 years), with 3 young children. They've been seeing each other about 2-3 months.
miss pixi also has a Dom, who she sees for an overnight about twice a month. She has been seeing him about 3 months.
So, I've got 2 partners. miss pixi has 3. Ginger has 5! He admits he is in over his head.
I live with my dear partner miss pixi, we've been together 5 years, living together for 1.
I have a boyfriend in the next town, Ginger. We have been together 2 1/2 years. He is married to Robin (together 40+ years). He is also FWBs with miss pixi. He has 2 new partners as well, Carla and David, who are married to each other (partners for 19 years), with 3 young children. They've been seeing each other about 2-3 months.
miss pixi also has a Dom, who she sees for an overnight about twice a month. She has been seeing him about 3 months.
So, I've got 2 partners. miss pixi has 3. Ginger has 5! He admits he is in over his head.