Feeling very left out!

So my husband, my girlfriend and I are in a triad relationship she also has a boyfriend. Husband and boyfriend don't get along. Like to the point that my girlfriend felt like she had to choose. Husband saw how much hurt he was causing her so he extended an olive branch to her boyfriend. Now husband and the boyfriend are texting to try and build a friendship for her sake. Which, by the way, I am ecstatic for. I feel like that is the ultimate comparison. Being so happy she is getting her cake and eating it too! But now here I sit on the patio watching husband and boyfriend text and am happy. I watch my girlfriend and boyfriend text and am happy. The. Listen to girlfriend and husband talk about the text and am happy. Yet I feel so disconnected and left out. I have nothing to do with all of this. It's not about me so I can't voice my opinion. Yet I can't help but notice how much it isn't about me . Just being a brat and not getting enough attention. Story of my life! I don't know...'maybe I'm writing this just so I can be on my phone like they are. Wishing for connection from some one, any one please. Desperate...I know but I'm tipsy so only truth is flowing out of me right now.
 
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lol. This is vaguely adorable. Why not plonk yourself in middle and say you want some attention too :D

Not joking. Do it. You're feeling left out with both your partners focusing on someone else's partner instead of you. Wade in. Ask for some pampering. Maybe they could use a break from making repairs to celebrating what they have too ;)
 
Opening poster, you are hilarious. You should totally share more truths with us. Think of how funny you can be while drunk and how much joy you will give Us!
 
Feeling very left out!

Wishing for connection from some one, any one please.

Could ask for what you need. Something like

" I feel left out. I need some connection from someone. Could someone be willing to give me a hug and some attention?"​

Speak up. People are not mind readers.

Galagirl
 
Thank you everyone. I definitely had some liquid courage and spoke up. It was received as well as it could have been I guess. GF said she wants to be there for me but can't. She is just hurting too bad from missing her boyfriend. Husband said he understood and admitted he was very caught up in all the emotions of trying to figure things out with GF's boy friend. He agreed I had been emotionally and physically neglected for the past week. He will pay attention to me more.


And I'm sure that won't be my last drunken post. Glad I could entertain :)
 
Why can't your gf give you some attention?
 
Thank you everyone. I definitely had some liquid courage and spoke up. It was received as well as it could have been I guess. GF said she wants to be there for me but can't. She is just hurting too bad from missing her boyfriend. Husband said he understood and admitted he was very caught up in all the emotions of trying to figure things out with GF's boy friend. He agreed I had been emotionally and physically neglected for the past week. He will pay attention to me more.


And I'm sure that won't be my last drunken post. Glad I could entertain :)

This reminds me of some poly film I'd watched where each character had a crush on someone who had a crush on someone else. Though obviously this is a different situation.

Am sorry that they couldn't be more sensitive. I would think something like that called for an immediate cuddle at the very least. Hope things improve soon. At least your husband sounds like he may.
 
Hi Threeheartsonebed,

Are you getting more of the attention so far that you need? It sounds like at least your husband was going to step up to the plate. What about your girlfriend, is there any chance she'll come around? I know she misses her boyfriend, but that doesn't mean she should neglect you.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
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